Ladies, do you think that there are dating rules that a guy should follow when he tries to ask out a girl? for example, the right time for calling a girl after he got her number, or the right topic to talk about the first time calling, or where to go on a first date and so forth. what do you think?
2007-05-06 23:02:05 · 11 answers · asked by 21questions 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When people try to make clear rules about this it really makes no sense. Everyone is different, so while some people would want a call the next day and to have a long chat about lots of topics, others would prefer a 3 day delay and just a bit of small talk. Do what feels right to you.
That said, don't forget to use common sense- if you've left a message, don't call again until she returns it, you'll just be nagging her. Don't mention any topics at first that could gross her out until you know her better (e.g., if you're a doctor, keep the operating room specifics to yourself for a while, if you love insects don't go into details on that yet, etc.). Don't take her to a really intimate place on a first date unless she says that she wants that- otherwise it will probably make her uncomfortable.
There are no hard and fast rules, but it's a good idea to put yourself in her shoes and imagine what you would think if you were her.
2007-05-06 23:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rule number 1 and it's a biggie, NEVER ask a girl out for the same day. Example, you want a date for Friday night, you don't call up someone that day for it. It make her feel like you could't find anybody else and she is not your first choice.
When you talk to a girl is it too hard to actually ask her what SHE thinks is fun for a date? It really depends on the age which you did not state. When a girl gives a guy her number she expects a call THE NEXT DAY. Not always for a date but to show that you are sincere and interested. If you want to get to know her you can ask her if she has any brothers and sisters etc. about her parents, like what their rules are about dating etc. In general be respectful to her and her family and you will win over the dad. You aint' gonna get past dad if your disrespectful to his daughter.
2007-05-07 06:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by myjamsandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are no specific rules to follow on dating. It is better to present yourself as the real you and not confine yourself with what people teach you on what to do or not to do during a date. You would probably know what you should or shouldn't do. Believe in yourself and have confidence. Just feel for the right proper timing. You can feel it if a girl wants to go out with you or not.
Good luck!
2007-05-07 06:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by SC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. It depends on you and the girl. But generally it is always good to call the girl with in a couple days of getting her number. And the first conversation could be about both of your interests, and what you might want to do for a date. And on the first date keep it simple and innocent.
2007-05-07 06:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 3 day calling rule is stupid. If a guy asks for my # and doesn't call for like 5 days, I move on and his chance is gone. Call as soon as you want. It shows that you are really interested. As far as first dates go, as long as it isn't to the movies or your house, things should be ok. Also, please approach her with respect when you are trying to ask her out. The "pssst!" thing is really annoying and I ignore ALL guys who do that to me, no matter how good they look.
2007-05-07 06:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by ..... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rules no, faint boundaries, perhaps. If you call a million times before we get home on the same night we met, we know you'll be clingy. If you wait to long, you're trying too hard play cool, or you had more important things to do and obviously you're to busy to have time for us. . . . Other than that just don't push to hard to make things happen, be polite and not too too touchy feely, and don't (FOR THE LOVE OF GOD) bring us on a group date the first time 'round.
2007-05-07 06:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by rkjackal02 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only dating rule I believe in is to treat one another with respect. Sort of the golden rule for singles. How boring it would be if the rest of it was all mapped out!
2007-05-07 06:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just be yourself on the date and call her in 2days after u get her number,flowers would be a good idea, take her to a place where u could sit and talk to get to know each other
Good luck
2007-05-07 06:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Gery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right and wrong time - call her as soon as you want to - be yourself, ask her about her interests, hobbies etc. Get to know her a little better. Flowers always work great!
2007-05-07 06:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by celianne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The main thing is to not push the issue of sex until you feel that she is ready. Women hate to hear guys make innuendos about sex on the first date. If she wants it, you won't have to hint, she will let you know.
2007-05-07 06:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋