I have been living with my boyfriend for 4 yrs and we have a 2 yr old and a 7 month old. We have not wanted to get married up until this point for various reasons but now we are ready. I want to send out engagement announcements but am paranoid that maybe its not a big deal to others since we already live together. Can I still send out engagement announcements?
2007-05-06 21:45:22 · 13 answers · asked by Bedhead 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Buddy down theres having a bad night. Go have another beer.
2007-05-06 21:53:37 · update #1
Ahh I love it when retired military have nothing better to do than show the world how their life is wasting away afterwards because of lack of education.
2007-05-06 22:07:52 · update #2
Ask yourself if getting married is a big deal to the two of you; don't worry if it's important to others. You should find out when you get a response to the announcements (or wedding invitations for that matter). Obviously, it is important to you if you are wanting to announce it to your friends and family.
BTW, congratulations on your engagement and I wish your family the best. God bless you. :)>
2007-05-06 21:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Phillip W 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Mmkay, first, you're in the "etiquette" catagory, so let's pretend you have some, okay? There is no reason to suggest those in the military are undereducated or stupid.
I think you can send out engagement announcements. It's not uncommon in the least (in fact, it's a little more common than not these days) for a couple to live together for an extended period of time before getting married. The people in your lives who you would send engagement announcements to will no doubt be happy for you, regardless of the fact that you have children together.
Since you're already a complete family, minus the actual marriage, can your engagement announcement somehow incorporate the kids into it? With two children, the engagement and wedding will end up being a little different than it would if you were just two young singles. If anyone were to find it odd that you were sending out engagement announcements, maybe if you acknowledged your situation as being a little different than that of a childless engaged couple, they wouldn't have a problem with it.
You don't have to, and I don't think anyone WOULD have a problem with it, but it might be something to think about.
EDIT: I take back what I said about the military. Most of them are not, but the one you were responding to is without a doubt spectacularly stupid.
2007-05-07 08:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go ahead and send the engagement announcement out. Who cares if other people care or not :)
2007-05-07 08:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are wanting to get married the it is a big deal with you and your soon to be husband and children.. Dont worry about what other things.
You could always send out wedding anoucments after you get married, along with a picture of you (in your dress and him in his tux, with the kids beside you of course) with a note to say you guys have finaly tied the note,
Gives them a chance to send you guys a gift. or a congrats card.
Good Luck.
2007-05-07 07:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be in poor taste to act as if you are beginning your life together, when you are obviously well on your way doing that already. A more appropriate thing would be a small ceremony for close family and friends followed by dinner.
2007-05-09 02:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by afling78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly acceptable to send out engagement announcements...
Those who love you and care about you will care and be happy with you and your fiance..
2007-05-07 04:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it's important to you and your soon-to-be husband and you want to share it with people, I say got for it! I think most people these days live with each other before marriage. It's going to be your special day and I think your friends and family would like to get an announcement.
Congrats!
2007-05-07 05:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by Trish C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe don't bother. Just plan a quiet ceremony and dinner at your home for family and close friends. Congrats!
2007-05-08 11:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the fact that you have already sprouted two little attachments makes no difference to the thrill of an engagement and impending marriage
2007-05-07 04:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You can send out anything you like. If someone doesn't like it, who cares?
2007-05-07 06:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Amy W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋