How to deal with losing a partner through suicide?

Answer 1

boy that must be very difficult. You will need time to grieve.
Please don't take on any guilt cocerning this.
Get some counseling.
Find ways to distract your self. Do some volenteer work.
Be sure to get out and about.
You might have times when you need to cry and grieve. It is ok to do this.

Answer 2

KNOW at LEAST this:

If they felt so out of control that they took their own life, that this LAST one thing that they could control just may have brought some sense of closure and power back to them that, finally, was what served them best.

We cannot know what serves the deeply personal needs of any other being than ourselves -- it's one of the great mysteries of life. What we can be sure of is that, ultimately, we do what serves us as best we can choose; and if to serve oneself best is by choosing the time of one's own departure, then who are we to assume it's wrong or inappropriate? Only the individual and their own connection with their creation can truly decide and really KNOW for sure.

Anyone else's opinions are only that: opinions. And your possible deep connection with that partner may just allow you further contact after the fact, depending upon your beliefs.

OUR loss is the situation of being "left behind", whatever the cause of death. The viewpoint of the individual who has left this Earth may indeed be one of elation and release and joy, and that's how I more often view it than not, based upon my beliefs and the stories of so many who've had contact with those who have gone.

It's a personal choice, and you will never be alone in these feelings -- we all find the ways that soothe our confusion most.

Anyone answering you here has most likely lost someone close to them, and while we cannot know your exact pain, we can say -- you are not alone, you are not alone...

Best to you... :)

Answer 3

I cannot even imagine how difficult that must be.
The only thing I can say is that you keep going day after day.
Doing whatever needs to be done, a step at a time.
Maybe a new hobby would help.
But pls do not stay all day at home, as far as I know that never helped anyone.
Go out with friends even if you feel like just watching TV.
Go out for a walk.
Maybe get a pet.

All you need is time, and time is still charge free.

Answer 4

How painful. I cannot imagine it. I can only tell you that the partner was very depressed but depressed enough that the partner did not care what your life would be like. You must have faith in God and know that that was a selfish move and that you will find someone who will think better of you than to take their life and leave you alone with the grief. I care. Email me anytime.

Answer 5

Im so sorry hun.
Please realize first that its not your fault and that he did this because he had an illness.
Be with people who are your support system and try to talk if you need to. I bet if they really care about you they would let your cry on their shoulder.
This is one of the worst grieving people probably deal with because its not predictable.

Answer 6

Talk to someone about it. It's not your fault, but you'll need help dealing with it. There are always feelings of guilt when these thing happen.

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