who thinks being forced as a young adult and or child is right?

Question

as a young teenager, my parents forced their religion on me. and would punish me severly if i didnt comply, who thinks such things like this are positive's for your children?

because it certainly didn't help me out. it only made me leave the church, and start searching the real truth.

CHRISTIAN- NON-DENOMINATIONAL

THE CHURCH WAS CALLED THE DOOR CHRISTIAN FELLOWSHIP.

ARMY-

i'm talking about being punished for not believing.

i'm NOT saying parents shouldnt be able to raise their children in their beliefs.

i'm talking about punishment if thier kids don't believe in thier religion. and being forced to participate.

OLDGUY

i am 23 and i didnt do anything bad because i wasnt allowed to have friends, not even in church because my parents thought they were backslidders, and i was homeschooled because they didnt want outsiders to persuade me. i was closed from the outside world. i was punished for anything and everything. i was spanked and grounded at 16 because some stupid boy forced a kiss on me while i was at work. i didnt reciprocate it at all. and he started stalking me. got my personal information from my paper work in the office. and i got punished for this. even though i didnt not provoke any of it. and they made me quit. grounded me for a month. took absolutly everything out of my room accept the bible. flipped my bed up so i couldnt lay in it, and i had to sit in my chair until bedtime. they locked me in my room when they left to go do something...thats not right. and even at 23 i know this.

Answer 1

Wow... reading about the 'Boot Camp' on their website... yeesh.

Answer 2

I think it is important for parents to demand a certain ethical behavior from their children. It is not necessary (or perhaps even advisable) to couple this with a religion. That being said, most people adhere to their particular set of religious beliefs because they believe that the beliefs are correct or good; if that it what they believe, then it is effectively incumbent upon them to at least give their children a grounding in those beliefs. If they are still having to "force" their beliefs (NOT ethics - different issue) on you by the time you are a teenager, then they didn't do their job when you were younger. Teenage is too late to set up an ethical system for any person to follow; that is why most religions begin teaching their beliefs to children as soon as they can sit and listen to stories.

As to "the real truth" - I think that's something each of us must learn for ourselves, no matter what our religion (or lack thereof). I strongly urge you to read about a broad spectrum of beliefs, and decide for yourself. You cannot change what is in the past, but you can make an intelligent decision in the present.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't think severe punishments for non-compliance to a certain religious faith can ever be a positive thing.
I realize that some parents may have the best of intentions when they are doing this, but they should think about the fact that they may be pushing their children away in the process.

The Door Christian Fellowship=Scary people. They may not be an actual cult, but they come pretty close.

Answer 4

well the tragedy is often that the parents are genuinely worried for their son/daughter's soul. Hence the force applied.

That said, I do think it is a bad idea to have children indoctrinated from birth into whatever faith (or lack thereof), but I do not see an easy solution. Maybe being raised by a group (of different faiths) would present a child with a more well-rounded view. Just thinking out loud there.

Answer 5

I really don't like such recruitment tactic. I am a christian and I decided on that on my own without my parents forcing me.

I have been watching some baptisms and I also disagree with the way they do things. The real meaning is getting lost. Those who baptize see the number of their baptisms as a trophy which is not right. They end up just baptizing those who are not really decided.

Its not right!

Answer 6

Most Christian churches are faith based - not the practice
of a religion. I wanted to be with my parents and family.

I am so sorry for your experience.

the real truth is summed up in two questions

Have you come to a place in your spiritual life that you know for certain that if your were to die tonight, you would go to Heaven?

Suppose you were standing before God and He asked you,
"Why should I let you in my Heaven?" What would you say.

blessings as you seek, O Theophilus

Answer 7

i don't understand if this can be considered baby abuse, yet i don't believe of it really is acceptable. a baby's body isn't waiting to be a mom's. After the youngster is born, the mum is way less probable to end college, get a good interest, and be in a position to nuture the youngster. My mom-in-regulation seems after foster children. between the children (she's truly of age now) became raped at 13 and her baby resides with her. they are starting off to have a more effective relationship, in spite of the indisputable fact that the youngster remains a reminder of the terrible act. fortuitously, they are in a good abode ecosystem and the now individual rape sufferer is going to school.

Answer 8

wow, that is so sad, and am sorry you had to have that experience as well. No one has a right to treat anyone like that, even God Himself don't force Himself on a person..I can understand you leaving the church and searching for the truth..But you have to realize that it wasn't God who was doing the forcing, for whatever reason your mom and dad thought that was the only way to in their point across to you, maybe in their families they were treated the same way, but that still don't give them the right to do it to others..Also you say your seacrhing for the truth, remember the truth is in God, God is not one to force Himself, He loves you and He knows what you were put through, don't be bitter toward God for what others has done to you, God is Love and He excepts us as we are, He is the one who will heal your hurts and pain and he is the one who will be there for you, to hold you and comfort you thorugh this..I really hope the best for you, and will be praying for you as well..

Answer 9

I think it's a load of BS!!!!
Early Baptisms were given to young adults, when they could think on their own.
Now it's blasted into childrens brains like a parasite. Eating at their every move and thought. Don't get me wrong, some Christian morales are good for kids these days, but they should remain morales instead of religion. When my kids are old enough to believe what they want, I will agree with any decision as long as it makes them happy and safe. Until then I will train them to be polite and caring, the rest will come to them.

Answer 10

You just said the word "religion". No, you cannot force beliefs, but rather set the example and teach the young ones what you believe. Force by any means never works.

Answer 11

I do not feel anyone should force a young child or adult to believe. My sons have been taught my faith and have freely chosen it. I fully believe that kindness and gentleness go farther than force or coercion. Children rebel if pushed and it is far more productive to lead. I lead my children to learn and in their faith not push. I am so sorry you were treated this way. Please understand that they had the best if misguided intentions.