Okay, here is my problem, I have been dating my current girlfriend for about 4 months and I love her so much and she says the same thing for me. A little background. We have an age difference of about five years, I am 24 and she is 19. During this time she has told me that she has slept with thirteen guys including having a threesome, and I have only slept with four women. After a lot of work I have finally been able to look onto the future of our relationship because she says that she is a person of God and that she has changed (This change happened when she had her threesome in Jan. btw). Well, I believe her but lately Ive been starting to wonder because I see her with wierd bruises and bruises like on her shoulders, scratches on her back, and bruises on her boobs, and she always makes up strange excuses like she doesn't know how they got there or that she ran into something for the one on her boob.My question is am I a fool or should I believe her! Please help, I'm conflicted!
2007-05-06 20:40:02 · 27 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you already know what it is you need to let her go
2007-05-06 20:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by MS. SWEET T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could understand letting the bruise on her boob go because she could have actually ran in to something (I know I've done it and it hurts real bad!) but the scratch marks on her back sounds like she is cheating I know that's not the answer you were probably looking for but with the detail that you gave that's exactly what it sounds like and I am very sorry if that turns out to be the case because I have been cheated on and it hurts deep down inside and it's hard to get over. but there is other fish in the sea so to speak. Your not a fool it's just some people can hide things real well and then again she could be telling the truth but in my opinion she is cheating. Sorry:(
Best of wishes in your situation.
2007-05-06 20:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by Babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe those flimsy excuses, you're being played for a fool. I'd say she's cheating and just doesn't want to tell you. Also, at times, five years isn't much of an age difference but yours is one. You change so much from 19 to 24. And I had to chuckle about her finding religion from a threesome. Set her free and find someone that will dedicate themselves to you.
2007-05-06 20:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by Melody G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, my advice is that you shouldn't believe her. she can't be that clumsy to run into thing to get scratches and bruises all over her body. she maybe making those excuses to cover for the things she's been doing. you should talk to her and tell her to tell you the truth. but if you feel that the truth she says isn't exactly what you thought it was, then i suggest you end up things with her. you might end up being hurt. and it's very painful. i've been hurt 3 times in a year. and sometimes i wonder if i'll ever find the right one for me. but i don't lose hope. so you should do the same and get out there and find the "one" for you. you'll never know, she might just be around the corner. :)
2007-05-06 20:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kristine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes people can change, however in this case I dont think she did. Before you jump to conclusions though you should talk to your girlfriend. If you are in love as you say you are you should be able to communicate with her. The basis of any good relationshio is trust and communication, right now you are lacking both. The only thing you can do is talk to her and hope for the best. Go with your gut.
2007-05-06 20:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Renee77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't believe her she is telling a story!! You know she is, but if you love her set down and have a talk with her to see what is the problem and see if you can help her. Maybe someone is hitting her and she is afraid to tell someone. You say you love her figure out what's going on!
2007-05-06 20:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be stupid you know she is cheating on you so quit making excuses for her and for her to only be 19 and be with 13 guys come on now shes only 19 she only wants to have fun she doesnt want to be tied down
2007-05-06 20:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love one another that doesnt mean u r guaranteed for one another. she could be saying that so as not to start with an argument or make you in trouble...loving someone need alot of faith & courage in understanding one another especially in your case...find the time where u can sit down & talk about your future and what you feel....u should not just walkaway as you will feel the pain later...
2007-05-06 20:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by Faith DL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i was with a guy for 4 yrs.......and for some weird reason, i had always gotten bruises or scratches in weird places and i wasn't cheating on him when i got them and he always asked me about the scratches and bruises, it just depends on what types of scratches they are........if they look like finger scratches or like from a wall or something.....as for your answer...........figure out what kind of scratches they are and try believing her if they look like they are from a wall because i still find bruises and scratches on my body and I'm not with anybody now so i know the scratches and bruises can happen
2007-05-06 20:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope you rate this as the best answer.
You are a idiot leave the ***** and look for a woman even if she is not a virgin...I don't think you derserve one, will take care and love you for it.
At 19 if she had accomplish what you have stated she must be a whore.......and forgiving her is only a idiot or derperado's choice.
2007-05-06 20:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Freakout 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
FOLL are you insane??this ***** is cheating on you and she is a big whore so why don't you dump her ***??you can find a decent woman that will respect you and that wont be making up stupid excuses for her hicks...i feel really sorry for you and i hope you don't trust her.move on with your life..best thing you can ever do.
2007-05-06 20:46:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋