This guy still likes his ex gf. When i confronted him abt it he accused me of hurting him real bad. He said that he still loves me and that im helping him to forget his ex gf. He also thinks its perfectly normal for him to like his ex gf still. I'm extremly hurt.
2007-05-06 19:44:05 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To answer your question: No Way! You have every right to do so. In the end it's completely up to you who to date, or who to pursue (whichever you prefer :-). You can do no better for yourself than be honest and turn down the guys that you simply, honestly don't possess an interest for.
I could understand how he might feel hurt by it - it always sucks to be turned down by the person you like, no matter who you are - but it really wasn't necessary to ACCUSE you of doing anything. If someone did that to me, I'd feel pretty guilty, and I'm guessing you felt that way too. Just don't accuse him of anything. It's not even necessary, and it was an accusation coming from him that hurt you in the first place!
He may love you, he may NOT love you, or he may just love the fact that you are helping him get over his ex girlfriend. Just don't reject him completely - I'm sure you love him, too. I'm presuming you're both friends. But if you were hurt by what he said then you shouldn't keep your mouth shut. Stuff like this simply needs to be worked through. He will eventually get over his ex girlfriend. and both of you will eventually heal. just don't give up on him.
2007-05-07 18:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well still likeing an ex isn't wrong, and is not as normal as it should be. Often people break up and become enemies because they feel hurt. If things don't work out it is better to part on friendly terms and still care about each other. There isn't enough careing in the world. What matters most is if he Loves you, not how he feels about his ex. There is a Movie called Chaseing Amy that explains it better I think....
2007-05-06 19:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by Malcolm L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong to reject him. You should actually tell him you are giving him time to forget about her BEFORE you and him move on together. If he needs you to forget his ex, you are definitely a rebound....That is a worse feeling than just being extremely hurt right now. I don't think you can hurt him anymore than his ex did. Why is blaming YOU for hurting him real bad? (He's obviously mixing you two up already).
Be careful and take care of yourself.
2007-05-06 19:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be in this relationship the quickest way to end is to keep bringing up the ex. Believe me i know.Dont make that your focus. Focus on the fact that he is with you and he truly loves you. He was with his ex and they probably shared something. But on the other hand if you think he wants to still be with her thats something different. But just do you and keep helping him forget about her. At least he is being honest with you. So dont reject him thats probably the reason why he's not with her now .
2007-05-06 19:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by sure2_n_joy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront him.. but dont let him see that you're upset. He's a douche bag, and if your ex girlfriend is dating him then she obviously doesn't have very good taste. Just move on and find another girl.. you probably wont get her back so dont waste your time waiting around for her. Just say to him i dont like the way you're treating me and if it doesn't stop then there'll be consequences . (:
2016-04-01 00:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's great and all that he loves you, but if he openly still has feelings for his ex and this hurts you, than you are doing the right thing by being honest about that. Don't let him guilt you into feeling otherwise.
2007-05-06 19:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by Nina P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still cares about his ex....then he doesn't love you as much as he sais he does.
Personal experience.....I was with my ex for 3 years, loved him a lot. Broke up...10 months later I fall in love with my boyfriend now....do I ever even think about my ex? ha! NOPE!
Trust me, don't get hurt for what he told you, be strong and always think..."there's plenty of fish in the sea"
2007-05-06 19:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by SusiQ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you had to go through this. But... Hell nah!! REJECT his lame a** asap!! What a sad and pathetic excuse to give to you. And not only that how dare he accuse you of hurting him. Forget about him girl you can probably do sooo much better!!
2007-05-06 19:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by pixies911 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find another guy. He is using you as a yoyo, cut the string. When anyone finds a way to put all the blame on you for something they are doing, feeling, thinking, etc. They are an emotional bum.
2007-05-06 19:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by marks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch him girl. im sorry but he's in love with his ex, not you. maybe he just wants to forget about his ex so he crings to you. and you dont want that right?
be brave and call it quits with him. he obviously still likes his ex so let him. at least now you arent in the way and you got rid of him.
best of luck! =)
2007-05-06 19:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by ~jaNe~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋