Is Anyone Grieving and how are getting thru it?

Question

found out 1yr. old is not mine

Answer 1

Is that grieving? I thought if the 1 yr old died, whether it was yours or not, that would be grieving.

You just gotta have patience with yourself. It won't go away overnight. And then some days, you'll think you have a handle on it, then an hour later you're a blubbering mess. Moving on itself is a scary process, but as you grow to accept your circumstances, it will get better.

Answer 2

I am terribly sorry you are having to go through this. Some will say there are up to 9 stages of grief but the typically acknowledged stages (5) are : denial, anger, guilt or bargaining, depression and acceptance. Each of these are hard to handle alone much less all together and people handle grief differently and it takes people different amounts of time to handle losses. It always helps when you have a good support system such as family to talk to. I am currently seeing a therapist for depression among other things and had been already when I suffered the loss of a child and that has been 2 years ago now. I am still "not over it" as most people say and I personally can't stand that phrase. I would suggest therapy or counseling of some type. I don't know your situation completely but I certainly hope you will be able to remain in the child's life and be the father of that child. A book that has helped me a lot too is The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James. I can only imagine the pain you must be going through and I do hope that you will start talking about it whether it be with a close friend or family members or a professional. In time things do get better.....but it has to be on YOUR own time. I wish you the best~

Answer 3

Grief is a normal response of all human beings. Many people have experienced grief sometime in their lives. One should give oneself time and the time is different for different people. It can last a year or so. After going through the initial stages of disbelief, anger and other associated symptoms people feel sad. They loose interest in many things and want to be by themselves. If somebody lost the loved one, for example, they will be thinking about that loved one. There are periods when grieving person will cry. They go through the painful feelings of loosing a loved one. Grief is normal. A mourning person gradually goes back to the normal activities as the time passes. If mourning stays for over a year then it could be pathological and needs psychiatric intervention. It is always helpful to talk to people about the feelings that a grieving person is going through. Gradually a person should try starting their regular activities.

Answer 4

that is a really hard situation to go through. are you with the mother still? if so maybe since you have raised the baby then you can still always think of it as yours. my husband and i have two children and my oldest is not his and she is daddy to her. you might need to go to some grief therapy to help you through this very difficult time. if you are still with the mother and love her you can forgive these things. there are many fathers in the world but never enough daddys. you might be able to go to couples counsling with the mother. not that this is any way the same but when i lost my mother i went to grief counsling and that is alot like what you are going through is the loss of a child. maybe you can still be a part of the babys life. i really feel for you and i wish that there was more that i can say. one thing is to forgive the mother whether you are with her or not and that might take some therapy and time. try to realize that mistakes happen. i am sure that she might be just as upset as you. i truly hope that things work out for you. and i hope that i helped a little. best of luck and you will be in my prayers

Answer 5

Grieving takes a different amount of time for everyone. Don't let anyone tell you that you should "get over it".

Answer 6

There is a process called the five stages of gieving look it up on google or any search engine they also write books on coping with giref.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I am grieving the loss of my child.

You eventually need to get over it. If you love the child then you will have to adjust. time heals

Answer 9

i lost my mom a month ago what i do is when im upset i tend o hug somone and if i have no one to hug i talk to ppl online or on the phone thats how im gettin thru it i have lost both my parents last year

Answer 10

even though the child may not biologically be yours. he/she is still your child because you have been in his/her life for the past year.

talk to someone about what is going on and how you are feeling.
write everything down in a journal that's the way i get through grievances.