Religion vs boyfriend?

Question

Should I break up with him because he is a stumbling block to my spiritual walk with God?

He is not a Christian, thats y sometimes, he doesn't fully understand the way we go about doing things biblically.

Answer 1

Dating someone that isn't a Christian is very difficult. I know. I was engaged to one. You are setting yourself up for a great deal of pain. If he is not a christian, then he isn't concerned with trying to help you with your faith. If you came to him with a problem, i don't think his reaction would be to pray with you about it. If you married him, he wouldnt' want to go to church with you and you would have a great difficulty with trying to figure out how to raise the kids. You would naturally want to raise children in the church, and I am not sure he would want to because he is not a member of the faith.

To have someone that you can grow with is a great feeling. I know this has to be hard on you because, like I stated, I have been there. But, I realized something when he ended up leaving me. I am better off waiting and looking for someone that I can grow with spiritually! I finally have that person, and it is fantastic. There is nothing that can compare to someone saying to me, "I thank God for you." and knowing that he's telling the truth. Knowing that if I say, "Please, pray for me." he's going to do it. You are right, your boyfriend will not fully understand your walk with God. Continue to walk with God and walk strong. One of the best ways to do to that is to rid yourself of things and people that hinder your walk--unfortunately, that does mean your boyfriend. I'm sorry that you are going through this. If you need a friend, you can email me through yahoo answers.

Answer 2

If he is never going to become Christian and if this causes you to constantly sin or constantly causes other problems in your relationship, then for both your sakes you need to leave him. However, if you both love each other very much and it is not going to cause major conflicts, then stay with him. However, if you plan to have children one day, you are potentially going to have huge problems raising them, unless you can both agree to teach them your different value systems, first starting with what you share e.g. do not steal, and then going onto the existence of God.

I am concerned that you want to go about things "Biblically". Be careful to listen to God and not to the Bible. The Bible is largely but not entirely the word of God. Make sure you are a Christian and not just religious, otherwise you may be throwing away another human being in the name of religion when you think you are being Christian, and you may be sending him all the wrong messages now about Jesus Christ. It is impossible to be a Christian and to be religious. You are young and I am guessing you are American. I am concerned about what you may have learnt from the religious right.

As a Christian, I would have a problem entering into a relationship with someone who is not Christian because I anticipate a lot of disagreements. This is not nice for either person and both will simply get hurt. Love is certainly not always easy. We do not choose who we love but we have to deal with the fall out if we cannot or should not be with that person. Good luck.

Answer 3

By: "the way we go about doing things biblically"
... are you possibly referring to waiting until after marriage for physical intimacies? If so, you might like to consider the Scriptural counsel in the following on-line articles:

Why Am I Drawn to the Wrong People?
- What Is Behind the Attraction?
- The Role of Family
- Other Influences
- The Power of Friendship
http://watchtower.org/e/20050722a/article_01.htm

What's Wrong With Premarital Sex?
- What Fornication Includes
- Serious Threats
- Learning Self-Control http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/7/22a/article_01.htm

Sex is not the only thing to be concerned about. One's relationship with God is of utmost importance!

Youths---Let [God] Help You Guard Your Heart!
- Why Obey [Godly] Parents?
- Attraction to the Opposite Sex
- The Persuasive Power of Your Peers
- Parents--Worthy of Honor
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2004/10/15/article_01.htm

Answer 4

You know, I always hate to see questions like this. My boyfriend is a Christian, I'm not. It's a non-issue for us. He didn't know that I was a non-believer until well after we fell in love. When he did, it made no difference to him. He understands why I don't believe. We've been together nearly three years, and we're getting married next year. Why is this even a question? If you love him, stay with him. People can be together even with religious differences. I'm proof that it works, regardless of what these other people say. If God is more important than someone who loves you, I'm sorry for you. You may find yourself in for a long, lonely life if you reject everyone who really loves you, simply because they don't share your beliefs. It's the differences between people that make life rewarding. Please think very hard before you do this. If your faith is really strong, it shouldn't matter to you what he believes, anyway.

Answer 5

Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 2 Cor 6:14

A yoke a wooden piece that two ox wear around their heads to hold them together while plowing fields. If you imagine one ox being larger then the other, the yoke would not fit right and there would be a large amount of chafing rubbing and blisters. This goes for relationships too. You have to be equally yoked together with your spouse or you will have much chafing and turbulence in your relationship.

Answer 6

You have to decide what's more important and stick to it, otherwise you will always regret your decision. You can talk to him and see what he wants to do ~ change his ways, or not, and take it from there.

If you feel a person is a stumbling block, whether it is to your spiritual path, your career or just to having the life you want, then what future can there be in the relationship?

Answer 7

Probably. One of the biggest mistakes people make is marrying or staying with someone with different beliefs than them, thinking they will be able to change them but in reality the other person changes THEM. If your boyfriend truly is a stumbling block to you, you should break up with him.

Answer 8

The solution to ignorance is not to walk away, but to seek to teach. If he doesn't understand, but you both would still like to pursue a relationship, then both of you must openly communicate regarding your beliefs.
As to whether you should break up, well no one but you can answer that, trust your instincts, keep an open mind and make a decision.

Answer 9

You should break up with God because he is a stumbling block to your spiritual walk with boyfriend.


Nobody can prove any gods, much less a specific god, exist; many people will tell you their god exists but no others, but will never be able to prove it, even if they think so. Some will threaten you with eternal pain or promise eternal joy to get you to believe in their god; these are all stories, created for people who were scared long before we understood the universe. Now we have no more reason for these superstitions.

How terrible the bible in particular is:
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/
http://www.evilbible.com/

What's the origin of the Jesus stories?
http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_jcpa5.htm
http://www.near-death.com/experiences/origen048.html

How silly and horrible religion in general is:
http://godisimaginary.com/
http://whywontgodhealamputees.com/

The alternative:
http://www.religioustolerance.org/
http://www.infidels.org/
http://www.positiveatheism.org/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unitarian_Universalism
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secular_humanism

Answer 10

Nothing should come between you and God. That said, pray for him. You don't have to end your relationship but he has to understand that God comes first to Christians. One last thing, be a good example of a Christian.