Its midnight here.. Canada.. (Manitoba)...it 10 hours or so, my dad will be having his surgery (colon cancer).. I for sure plan to see him tomorrow.. just wonder, if and what he will be like after surgery?.. Should i be there for when he is recovering.. or wait till later in the eve? Just don't know what to expect when someone has this type of surgery..
2007-05-06 18:38:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Here is what I want you to do. Get off the computer, brush your teeth, wash your face, go to bed, if you have any religious believes, pray hard and long to God about your dad and wake up earlier than your dad go to his house take ride with him to the hospital and tell him good luck when they put him on the bed to take him to O.R. or if he is already in the hospital wake up as soon as you can tomoro and stand by him show him your support and tell him good luck it will mean a lot him than it will to you. You need to be there. I don't know if Canadians are cold hearted or not but do let me know if Canadians are cold hearted here in USA we go to hospitals even if it's a relative that's having a surgery.
2007-05-06 19:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is your call. Do you want to be there during/right after or would you rather wait a bit?
If this is the first surgery involving this cancer you might want to think about having at least 2 people there, since they will find out the extent of the cancer when they do the surgery. If the news is good and it's localized then wonderful, but if it's not then there are 2 people to support each other when the news is known.
2007-05-07 01:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by frogsandducks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe anyone has answered your question, so I will give it a shot since I had this type of surgery. First, make sure you are there to see him prior to surgery - just in case something happens.
When he gets out of recovery, he will be in and out of consciousness. He will be on pain medication, because they will slice him open from above his belly button all the way down to the pubic bone. He will have an NG tube (nasal gastric) to pump his digestive system, so that will be uncomfortable and make it difficult for him to talk. He will also have a catheter to help with urine (they need to make sure the bladder and kidneys work and also see how much urine he is passing). The NG tube will stay in until they hear bowel sounds. Depending on the extent of the cancer, he may have a colostomy. He is going to be hooked up to all kinds of machines, and in and out for a day or so. It will be good for you to be there for him. He is going to be in a lot of pain and discomfort until the NG tube and catheter are removed and they get him up and walking around. You can help motivate him to get up and get moving. The quicker he can be ambulatory, the quicker he will heal.
It is obvious you love your dad and are worried about him. Go and be there for him when he goes in to surgery, and be there for him as much as possible after he comes out. Good luck and I hope this answered your question.
2007-05-07 03:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Barry M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, when they're done he's likely to be a bit out of it for a while afterwards as the effects of the anaesthesia wear off, so in the immediate aftermath it won't do anyone any good for you to be there, but once he wakes up (and he may feel pretty nauseous afterwards, some people react that way to anaesthesia) and they transfer him back to his room you can go, he's much more likely to be aware of you that way.
2007-05-07 06:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by The Doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes be with him. IMHO, it is best to be with him before he goes in so he can see you and know you are supporting him as he is going in. Be reassuring to him and yes, you can tell him that you love him. He knows it, but he would probably appreciate hearing it. Many family members will wait in the waiting area so that when the surgeon comes out, he/she can speak with them. In the pre-op area, ask the nurse where you should wait. It would also be nice for you to be there when he comes out of surgery.
2007-05-07 01:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad had colon surgery also.I was there for him when he came out of recovery.I think the smile on his face said it all.Yes you should be there when he comes out of recovery.After that he will be very sleepy and just want to rest.But seeing your face when he wakes up is so reassuring.Good luck with all.
2007-05-07 08:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by gerdie65 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you left tonight or tomorrow he will still have surgery. I think when he wakes up and has you by his side it will help him more than you. Be there. Surgery is scary when you are alone.
I will pray for you Love.
2007-05-07 01:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by eccentric_daughter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you doing on a computer?
You ought to be at your Dad's bedside already!!!
Even if your Dad doesn't need you, your Mother will!!
I can not believe anyone felt the need to ask such a question!!!!
BTW, expect and prepare for the worst. Then be thankful if you get good news.
2007-05-07 01:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course you should B there. if ur close with him you shouldn't even have asked that question. there are always risks with surgery.you would hate yourself if something happened 2 him.i know because i lost my brother 2 years ago durring surgery and wasn't able 2 B there and i, 2 this day still hate that i wasn't there.i will never forgive myself for missing that last time with him. it still haunts me.
go B with him for your own piece of mind...
2007-05-07 01:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by jenn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go see your Dad
2007-05-07 01:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by B.B.B. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋