Answer this then! I asked about toddler tantrums, this is for all the know it alls that answered.?

Question

You all answered with yes it annoys me when toddlers throw tantrums, it is unacceptable,. alright then geniuses tell me your magic way to make them stop, imagine you are smack in the middle of shopping, your trolley is almost full, and all of a sudden they ask for something, you say no, they start screaming and carrying on, What do you magicaly do to make them stop.
And ignoring them isnt an option because you have all said how inconsiderate it is to just let them go.

Answer 1

Kids only do this when they know that their parents will give into them. My son is only 2 and he already knows by the tone of voice that I use that he had better stop what he is doing. Parents need to be consistant with discipline. When you take your child to the store and you tell them no, that they can't have something and they throw a fit in the middle of the store don't give into them. Tell them that by acting that way that they will be left home with a baby sitter and not allowed to go with you, and follow through.

Answer 2

My threat is always to just leave. I don't mean go check out, let the tantrum continue, then leave. I mean LEAVE right then and there. It doesn't matter if you have spent 2 hours shopping and have a basket full. You can always go back later and do it over. You have to be willing to just walk out, leave the basket there, and take the child home. If you feel that this is imposible it is more likely because you don't want to go through the trouble of doing it all over again and that's more of a selfish reason than anything.

I only had to do that ONE time with my kids. After that, all I have to do is talk "through my teeth" if they start acting up and tell them to "stop now or we are leaving" and they stop.

On the other hand I have been in a situation with my 2 year old daughter where she refused to sit in the buckled seat. She screamed and cried and I refused to give in to her. I had to do what I was doing and I didn't have an option to leave at that time. It was annoying to me and to others but, personally, I would rather see a parent lett he child throw their fit and not give in to them than see a parent bend over backwards, give in to the child just to keep them quiet out of fear of what everyone else will think.

We ignore tantrums at home because that is how you get them to stop. So sometimes we HAVE to ignore the tantrums in public as well because we can't always give a rats behind what everyone else thinks.

Answer 3

because they are children and ALL children have tantrums sometimes. when this happens to me in public i leave the store as do most parents but hey, your child is still going to screan on the way out to the car, Its just what most todlers do.

Ild also like to add that some people just love to have a reason to look down on someone else. It makes them somehow feel superior. If your on your way out of a store with your toddler who is having a tantrum, people still give you funny looks. I know ive been there. what do these people want you to do, tie your kids up and put duct tape over their mouths, wow that would make them feel even better, then they could call the athorities. no no no... I just think people love to talk and make themselves feel better
My answer from the same question asked last night, Im still sticking to my story :-) good luck and dont let rude people get you down, just do the best you can. there is no such thing as a perfect parent, we all make mistakes.

Answer 4

I'll probably get a lot of flack for this, but I'll just say that when I was little and was bad, I got a good old fashioned spanking. (Not beating or anything, just a hard swat on the backside). Being an intelligent child, it only took about 2 spankings to realize I didn't like them, and if I didn't misbehave, I wouldn't get them! It certainly worked for my parents, and I'm sure it will work for my kids too someday!

Answer 5

The process of socialization is very simple, although it does require a lot of patience and time on your part. It is very common for parents to melt and give in as soon as their child begins to whine. This is a mistake and must be avoided. You should first understand that a spoiled child can grow up to be very stubborn and used to getting his way. To avoid this from happening, you must first lay out the basis of the relationship to be established with your child. Your child will need to respect and admire you. Teach your child from an early age to obey and respect you. Keep in mind, however, that you should never attempt to get your childs respect by imposing your physical strength or by means of inflicting pain on him. On the other hand, you should not seek to get your childs approval by submissively accepting what he desires. You must find the perfect balance between both and enforce your authority when needed so as to make your child understand that you are the one who will be in control. Once your child correctly gets that idea, he will respond accordingly.

That was my educated answer.
Now for my common sence answer.

The same way the old timers used to do. With Positive or Negative Reinforcement. Rewards or No Rewards.
I think we as a society have lost that abillity out of fear, Fear of approval or non approval, but that is not needed to raise your child in the way you see fit. Be firm and constant and your child will respect and admire you. Just as most did there own Fathers.

Answer 6

when mine would do that i would pick them up and walk out of where ever i was at. it didnt matter how full cart was or how the movie hd just started.... u want them to stop. and they learn quick... oh no if i show my butt mom will make me leave... yes its a pain in the *** if u are almost done shopping but if u dont put ur foot down then ur child will never learn.

Answer 7

When my children have acted that way I just took them home. I can always go shopping later when they can be watched by their dad or a babysitter. My kids finally realized that I wasn't going to give in and that they didn't get to go with me when they acted out. I hope this helps

Answer 8

Hey if my basket was almost full and shopping was fixing to be done . I would just deal with it and head straight to check out fast and head home for a nap to be done for them.

You can always head to the bathroom and leave your basket outside the door and just handle it there, but you cant avoide it cause it will happen when you least want it to.

I wont leave with my shopping almost done, i might just do a quick grab on the things i really need and come back later.
the people might get mad about it but hey they will forget about it later. I always do cause it's something you just have to deal with like drivers who speed by you on the road.

Answer 9

Well, when I went shopping I usually went with my hubby, and if she through a fit, one of us would take her to the car and put her in the carseat for a time out. We only had to do that twice and she got the point of if I misbehave in the store, I leave the store.
But I know thats not possible for everyone.
Good Luck
Morgaine

Answer 10

well I was one that answered no it doesnt bother me unless the parent doesnt atleast try something for them so I understand where you are coming from cause it is hard to quiet them down unless you do give into them which of course is the wrong thing to do. You cant always give them what they want so then they are going to scream and cry for it and you are only trying to do what is right.