My Man of 16 months are in a rountine. I go to work 30 hours a week and I am 40 hours a week in an EMT academy. He works 55 hours a week. Our Love life is soo boring.
He says I never dress sexy, and I never am in the mood. IM NOT..He never is romantic anymore. He used to buy me flowers and dance with me but never anymore. I am always tired and stressed. Having him Live 45 minutes away dosen't help either. We are talking marriage and looking at houses...When we do get married, it will still be the same anyways. HELP!!
2007-05-06 18:27:25 · 12 answers · asked by Bride2Be 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
STOP LIVING TO WORK!
That's what is making you both impotent. You are not 'living' at all, just existing to get more money. So are you going to die early but rich? Stop now, look at what you're doing to yourselves and each other. Re-schedule your work - both of you, to give yourselves some time for each other. It may require you dropping a 'good job', or ceasing some study, but unless you get out of that rut you're in, there is no future for you as a couple, or as individuals.
2007-05-06 18:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 words....SPICE IT UP! You have to try new things, new places, new lingerie' , new positions, what have you.....it will excite both of you. You both need to get on the ball, especially if marriage is in the picture soon. I mean, you both love eachother and all, everything is great as far as caring goes, now you both need to have some serious intimate fun. Go to sex stores together, that can spark some creativity. Make it a point, a PRIORITY, to be sexual and try new things together, don't let the desire dwindle away. Talking always helps too, be honest with each other, and most of all, get out their and have some FUN with eachother. Make it happen, regardless of obstacles. Hope all goes well.
2007-05-07 01:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to plan time every month if not every week. It is true you are in a rut. Just getting away, I don't care if it is just going fishing, going to the mall, a movie, JUST SOMETHING!!!! It is so important. In turn the romance will still be there, being someplace other than home is kinda of exciting. When you do , if you do , get married it will get even more boring. You have to make time for each other, so you can enjoy the whole purpose of being married!!! It will keep your sex life healthy. Just remember sex is good for you, it will keep you healthier longer.
2007-05-07 01:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its only boring if you make it boring.
If you are getting married, then you will have the 45 mintues of less commute and more time for it ? Turn the tables. IF he doesn't bring you flowers and dances with you anymore. Then you should bring him something he likes a lot? Like recently, my husband did a very nice thing for me and to thank him, I took him a mocha at his work place, unannounced. Just surprised him. As for dancing, can't help you there, it takes two to dance. Have fun thinking of things to do with him to make it fun!
2007-05-07 01:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by ACME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to try some different stuff. Say you will be alot more into it if he is romantic first. Then experiment a little. You don't have to do anything crazy, just try some new positions, or try it in places in the house you haven't done it, etc. Or if all it will take is him being romantic, tell him to be more romantic and you'll make it worth his while.
2007-05-07 01:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by red_necksuck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. If you want to salvage your sex life, then I guess you would have to start dressing sexy, you yourself make a puch out of this boring routine..It might be hard since you're upset about the flowers and the dancing...but maybe if he sees you making an effort, he will too.
2007-05-07 01:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Zoila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not yet married already getting tired about having sex, then what to expect when you two become husband and wife,I think you should talk to your bf, and play some sex video, before doing it.
2007-05-07 01:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by emma l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can control is yourself.... if you want to change the situation then you have to make the first move and dress sexy and do things to arouse him.
If he does not respond, then do not marry this guy.
2007-05-07 01:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by ridelightoff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get kinky with him out of nowhere. It might work.. just surprise him one night with some candles and maybe whipped cream or something. If that doesn't work then take him out to dinner and try talking to him about it.
2007-05-07 01:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by JaggedLittlePill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you have to have a sit down talk about this now. it cant wait. to see whats going on. you guys do work a lot. to spice it up a little rent a movie a hot one
2007-05-07 01:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋