My daughter is 23 months old, and potty trained about a month ago. I go in the bathroom with her every time and wipe for her, and help her wash her hands. Today we were in a restaurant, and a woman told me (quite rudely) that if she can go on the potty, she should be made to wipe herself, because it isn't hygenic for me to help her. I personally think this is ridiculous, She isn't even 2. At what age do you think they are old enough to take care of this?
2007-05-06 17:00:31 · 12 answers · asked by ♥ ♥ ♥ 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think that woman should have been told to shut the **** up. Its your kid. Personally I'd say since shes poty trained and knows the basics..start letting her wipe herself once shes done. Say " you r such a big girl..why dont you try to wipe yourself this time and mommy will help you learn" Im sure she will do it in no time. I dont find it odd since my son is almost 3 and Im still changing diapers and wiping his booty every day. Potty traingin is such a hassle with him he will be good for a month then all of a sudden revert back to dipeys!!! Dont feel bad or weird about this. go at your own pace and let your daughter go at hers.
2007-05-06 17:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm just wondering how she knows that you were helping your daughter wipe herself you could have been in there with her just so she's not alone b/c there are so many perverts in this world .I would have been suspicious of this lady, that does not sound right.I would have made a scene, she has no right telling you what you should do with your child.Some kids are not even potty trained at that young of an age .Obviously
this woman has mental issues ,she should not be peeping around public washrooms
in my opinion!!!
2007-05-06 17:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by selma b 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would hate to say it but I agree with the woman to an extent. I believe at that age, you should have her wipe for herself but maybe double check her and give her a little help. There are too many helpless five year olds that still have mommy or daddy come in to wipe them. My son is 3 1/2 and I have expected him to wipe himself since around 2. He doesn't always do a perfect job but how is he going to learn if I don't let him do it himself? Empower your daughter by letting her exert some independance. It is kind of like brushing teeth... let them brush on their own, but then go back after and double check and touch up on areas that were missed. It is just my opinion, but don't do everything for her or she won't ever have a reason to do it on her own.
2007-05-06 17:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by martidom 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally I would have sneezed at her and showed her just how hygenically sensitive you are, but when your child can reach and actually clean herself, not just make a mess then she can do it. Until then you are doing great to have her potty trained already who cares what some old biddy says, her kids probably went to kindergarten in diapers.
2007-05-06 17:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're nonetheless wiping your children *** on the age of 6 you will have disorders. I'd say by means of four or five they must be doing it on their possess however at that age may not be thorough so be ready to discover allot of skid marks within the laundry!
2016-09-05 10:39:38 · answer #5 · answered by wildsmith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is none of that womens business what your doing is right your the childs mother not her. i have a 3 year old she at the point were she wants to sit on the potty herself and she wants to wipe herself to i let her but i tell her i need to check just to make sure.i think at a certain point kids want to be a little more independent i let mine have some indenpents on that part but its really up to you when you think shes ready.
2007-05-06 17:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you think she is ready, WOW, i cannot believe some one said that, it's not to hygienic for your daughter to get an infection from not wiping well, and i am quite sure you washed your hands, WOW, WOW, i do not know how i would have handled that, what a disturbed person, that woman was
i think i would have her try each time and then you do a follow up, and when you see she does it well enough, you will know
2007-05-06 17:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by melissa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children can't wipe themselves adequately [ at least after poop ] until about age 4. You can start letting her wipe after urine at 2 1/2, or 3.
She's your kid, and you are in charge of her hygiene.
2007-05-06 17:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that woman was out of line, and wrong. not until your child is 3 or 4 will she be able to do it correctly herself. when she reaches age 3, let her try it. let her try before that if she wants to. simply supervise her to make sure she's all clean. then you both wash your hands, and all is well.
2007-05-06 17:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by Laur 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that lady needs to mind her own business. who the heck is she to tell you what your daughter should or shouldnt be doing. If she is comfortable with you doing that and vice versa, then whats the problem, when she is about 3 you should stop and let her do it herself, or whenever she seems interested in doing it herself, but you should ask her if she wants to do it, or if she wants you to help
2007-05-06 17:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋