was he calling me fat ?

Question

serious answers only please -at a party we went to, this girl passed by us and she was wearing very skimpy clothes and she probably weighed 300 pounds(no joke) this co-worker asked if she was my friend and laughed about it , i became a vegetarian since january of this year, i've lost 17 pounds and i weight 194 and im 5'7'' and since i just got out of h.s. where i played varsity lacrosse, i know it's mostly muscles, and i go to the gym when i can ,so his remarks really hurt me, he doesn't know me

Answer 1

Your co-worker was being a jerk.
You can either forgive him or you can tell him that his remarks hurt you.

Answer 2

It is suspicious that he was making fun of both of you. You are above weight for your height, and she was, so he was insinuating that since you are, you must know her, and be her friend. . What a turd, I hope he is a co-worker, and not a boss.
People do this, if there are 2 people of an ethnicity in a room full of another, somebody makes the assumption that they are either related, or know each other.
It is prejudice, discrimination, and turdism. And, he really was asking to get a Lacrosse stick upside his head.

Answer 3

It is so sad when people make such rude, unkind remarks without any apparent conviction or conscience as to who they might hurt in the process. Let's just hope that he was asking a simple question and was actually wondering IF she was your friend. Let's also hope that his snickering was aimed at the scantily way she was dressed and NOT at her weight.

I think that although it is very hard not to show hurt or anger or ??!! that is exactly the response some people are looking for. I recommend trying hard to keep your cool and without a change in your countenance or the tone of your voice simply ask something like, "No, I don't know her. Why did you think that she was a friend of mine?"

Answer 4

He was just asking if she was your friend. He didnt say anything about you being fat. Of course context is everything so its hard to tell how he said it because I wasnt there.

But certainly if he was being rude you dont need that kind of attitude. If I were you Id go and tell him how I felt afterwards. Or at least ask him why he was laughing when he asked that question.

Answer 5

well normally if it was me i would have made a remark back at him or her but if you didnt that was probably the right thing to do, but in my opinion you should just blow it off dont start caring about what that person thinks about you as long as you know you are who you are and there ius no need to change for other people and like you said he doesnt KNOW you!!!

Answer 6

He is a very rude insensitive person and is not worth your worrying about anything he thinks. He acted like a jerk and he needs to exercise his mind and not his mouth!

Answer 7

you can say something back.

you can be honest with him and tell him to grow up

or you can hurt his ego by questioning his masculinity/sexual orientation and make him feel self-conscious. after all, he made you feel self-conscious first, right?

or you can forgive him because
he's probably just some lame insecure pansy who needs to call girls fat to make himself feel skinnier.

or..

slap/punch him in front of others. it'll humiliate him and make him look like a pussycat (minus the word cat).

Answer 8

im sure he wasnt implying it was you. he was probably just trying to make small talk and didnt mean to hurt your feelings. she shouldnt have been wearing skimpy clothes if she didnt want attention. i woudlnt take it personal . he probably didnt mean anything by it..thats the way it sounds to me.

Answer 9

in your last post you refered to the girl as 400 pounds. and yes he is call you fat. you know your not, most guys know that will get to women and that is the best they can come up with.

Answer 10

I think he was making fun of her not you. 300lbs and 194 is a big difference. He is a dumbass