My daughter is 10 yrs old alot of times seems just clueless. I spent the day with her and her friends and they seemed clueless. I couldn't tell if they were playing dumb, because it was cool or heaven help them it was real. I remember at 10, I was responsible, cooking, cleaning, and watching my younger sisters. They seem not to know anything about anything. They giggle, gossip, know clothes brands and think they know boys. But to ask them a question, they get this blank lost look. Even asking something like "What do you want for lunch"? produced blank confused looks. Does anyone else notice this, in this generation?
2007-05-06 16:40:26 · 8 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Good Advise Lara thanks
2007-05-06 17:02:23 · update #1
Unfortunately, little girls today are swamped with media images of female "icons" like Paris Hilton or Britney Spears (who have got to be two of the most clueless people on the planet). It's easy to see how a little girl can make the assumption that cluelessness is a desirable trait, when they see these people on the covers of magazines that are rewarded for their lack of intelligence.
You can even see the difference between the current times and the old times, simply by looking at the toys that are available nowadays. If I had asked for a "Bratz" doll when I was a little girl, my mother would have thumped me upside the head. However, Bratz dolls are everywhere, and younger girls are learning that it's cool to be into boys and fashion... and maybe not-so-cool to focus on the other aspects of life.
Sad, but true. It's nothing that you did or didn't do, but you can certainly get your daughter's attention focused on other things. Try to find a new hobby that she could learn, maybe she'll open up and realize that there's a whole different world out there. (One that isn't ruled by boys and clothes.) :-)
2007-05-06 16:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by crestedladyco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is ten, and I go through A LOT to stop her from looking up to brainless girls as role models. They are EVERYWHERE. I think that the more we spoil our kids, the less likely they will learn being like you were at ten. I also helped my mom with my younger brothers when I was younger, my daughter is an only child and has none of those duties.
I think none of the girls answered you because none were sure what was "cool" to eat. Kids act very silly when they're together. I'm pretty sure you're daughter is smarter when she is not around these kids.
2007-05-06 23:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's the parenting. Sure you were cooking, cleaning, and watching your younger sisters at that age, but is your daughter doing that now? Obviously not. Everyone is brought up differently, and apparently your bringing up your daughter differently then you were. And thats not wrong. Remember they are only 10. Let them be clueless, but when you notice they are being clueless, instead of sitting there wondering "why", why don't you fill them in? Teach them, instead of sitting there being "clueless" as to why they are like that.
2007-05-06 23:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A 10 year old is still at the "you tell me" stage.When I got into these situations,I tried to remember myself at that age.At 10,if I had a group of friends over,I wanted to do what pleased my mom so that she would allow it again.Lead them instead of asking them to lead you.Say "hey!I have a new recipe for dinner,you girls wanna help?".I will bet your daughter will be eager to help and when you do laundry,say to her" let's fold this laundry and talk" and she will come to see these chores as enjoyable.Include her on your daily chores for a while and then gradually start her to doing them on her own ,telling her how well she is doing the whole time.You are wanting to help her and I will bet she is wanting to help you!!!
2007-05-06 23:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by lara m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have noticed this. it started in my generation i am afraid. i am not like this ,but my little sister is. they have very little sense of responsiblity, easy access to goods, they are growing up in an age of information/misinformation, and a very consumer driven society. their mind isn't focused on what's important its focused on whats hip or intersting or what ad company's tell them. its really sad. don't think they dont know they are smart they just don't seem to care about what matters they don't prioritize properly. and with the education system set up the way it is, and the lack of out door play and freedom because we worry about predators they really are under alot of pressure and restricition so they drown their cares in silly things. i hope that we can teach them balance and caring and not to sway to the pressure that society places on them both good and bad. don't worry i think she will turn out alright in the end.
2007-05-06 23:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by TR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, my 16 years old girls still act that way. Don't worry, you sound like like you were a very mature 10 year old. A 10 year old is still a child, they'll out grow it eventually.
2007-05-07 03:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by ltlluci 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 8. Her and her friends seem far from clueless. My daughter is encouraged to be self dependant. her friends are much the same. Sorry.
2007-05-06 23:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think it is normal
as iam ateenager , i also sometimes do so but my mom always share her feelings with me.so i also prefer to do so and hence we develop a new relation
i think you should also do what they want but only that things that you think right.
all the best
2007-05-06 23:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋