First question how many people would want to get an arranged marriage over love marriage.
2nd question is that would you have sex on your first night of your wedding, but it was an arranged marriage (happens in the family) and the girl has never seen nor met you before. would you just go ahead and have sex with her or would you actually give her space to get to know you before.
Please be nice and answer only if you are mature, don't be a jerk.
2007-05-06 13:18:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, if the arrangement was done by my family, who love me and know me and want the best for me, and hers as well, then sure, why not? I trust their judgment.
2ndly, well, that's up to you, I've heard stories of couples who just talked all through the night.... they were both really happy about it. The girl had never talked with a guy like that before and was very happy.
In the end its your choice. She'll be your friend for the rest of your life, so....
Good Luck!
2007-05-06 13:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is an odd question. I don't think I would get involved with an arranged marriage but if I did I would test the waters on that first night. Consumation of a marriage is important but if she needs space, she needs space and there isn't anything you can do about that.
2007-05-06 13:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by specdro 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would never want an arranged marriage. marriage to me is something done between 2 consenting adults who love each other.
as for the second question, again i wouldn't want to be in an arranged marriage, but if it did happen per say i would give her some space and get to know her. i don't like the idea of 1 night stands or anything like that. sex without emotion is as useless as masturbation, and has risks on top of it.
2007-05-06 13:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by cured_severin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well...from a females perspective...I know this question is for guys...but...I would rather get married for love...love to me is developed...
if it is a tradition in your family to get married by arrangement and not for love...I would rather have sex later...I am giving you advice from a woman because sometimes it is good to hear it from the opposite sex...so you can see what she might be feeling...
she may be nervous that you are a stranger and she has to give her virginity to someone she doesnt love or know...I would let her get to know you....unless she feels comfortable as your wife to go for it...
it will work out the way it should...try not to sweat it so much if you are in this situation...some of the greatest romances were of people that were arranged together...may you have a lasting marriage that can withstand the test of time...good luck to you
2007-05-06 13:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would prefer a marriage born out of love
for myself no i would want to get to know the lady and her to know me --- i imagine that the culture that would endorse this type of marriage would also have little respect for the lady or her wishes and for a male bought up in that culture he would want and insist on his "conjugal rights" from the first night
i dont agree with arranged marriages and would never be involved in one plus i have never met anyone (that i am aware of) in an arranged marriage
2007-05-06 13:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First is i would not go in for marriage to a girl i have not seen, met, known and loved. It is not just a matter of reproduction to continue the clan or the the family. it is a question of spending your life with someone you love from the deepest cores of your heart.
As far as sex on the first night is concerned, rememebr sex is like clapping, you need two hands for it. Please reffer to sex to your partner as lovemaking. and you can just jerk off or have intercourse, unless you two love each other.
So the choice is yours, a happy future or the happiness of the people who are a part of your past. Please decide your priority, I left my family when they tried to force things on me, and I am an Indian, where such decisions carry the social wrath and condemning.
2007-05-06 13:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Brave Heart 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. I would rather have love marriage.
2. The first night of the wedding, I would like it to be intimate and friendly. Try to get to know this person better. Who knows, that might get the two of you together in bed happily.
2007-05-06 13:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by st_lucius 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Arranged marriages only work when one or both parties have a lot of money.
2007-05-06 13:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't mind a arranged marriage...but I would never marry anyone without ever seeing her.
Sex on the first night or not, depends on the girl too....if she very shy kind....probably a good night kiss only ( on cheeks )....I would n't mind doing it, she is also looking for it
2007-05-06 13:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by planetrp00700 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, do you really need advice there? You know when the time comes. Of course you need to, at least explore first...But if the fire ignites...they go, smooth sailing! Remember, dont rush! She's yours, right! Make it right from the very first time. I maybe sound othordox, but I do appreciate a nice and memorable first night! Hey, Good Luck there!!!
2007-05-06 13:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by ni2penang 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋