So I've been dating this guy for about 2 months. Yeah 2 months is nothin but we've been datin since New Year's night... Dont ask.. lol Anyway hes 19 and a virgin and he's not as affectionate as I would like him to be so I figure if i can find a way to show him how much i really care then he will be more intimate. How do I let him know that I really care without being to clingy or too pushy with the whole sex subject?
2007-05-06 13:10:45 · 14 answers · asked by drunk & content 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just go the extra mile. Do sweet little things like baking his favortie cookies or making his favorite meal for dinner.
Get interested in the things that interest him. For example if he was in the military you might ask a question or 2 about it.
Or ask a few about his job. Encourage him to see his friends.
And BE UNDERSTNDING! If he doesn't feel ready for sex, even at 19 then don't push him. If you really care, don't push!
2007-05-06 13:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
New years night was 4 or 5 months ago...I would just stick with hugging and kissing untilhe's ready. you wouldnt want a guy to push you if the shoe was on the other foot right..... thnk of it that way and try doing what you would be comfortable with if you were the virgin who didnt want to rush into it
2007-05-06 20:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't and shouldn't "change people" if he doesnt give you what you want or should I say what you would like, look around. there's ALOT of options out there. lots of little fishies ya know.
He's a virgin. he's not comfortable with the idea of intimacy yet. I'm sure he knows you care, you have told him right?
talk. talk. talk. its always the same answer here on Yahoo. talk to him and be honest. don't trick him and don't force him. and remember, you have options.
peace!
2007-05-06 20:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mercury 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try telling him how you feel. Tell him that your glad that sex isn't the center of your relationship, and that you think that when he finally lets you sleep with him, it will be a bonus to a great connection.
2007-05-06 20:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by st_lucius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little things, like send him flowers. Pay for both of your movie tickets. But if he still doesn't do anything, then you may have to get a little more flirty. But remeber, if he dosn't change, you can't make him (it sucks, doesn't it?).
2007-05-06 20:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by [MidnightWriter] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being affectionate maybe part of who he is....and letting him know how much you care about him won't change that.
2007-05-06 20:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy him stuff,call him asking how his day was, ask him if he wants to hang out over your place, tell him you miss him...stuff like that to start with and see what happens.
2007-05-06 20:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was going through the same prob w/t my b/f but i finally cracked his shell. give him a cute pet name. {ex:like baby,boo} tell him what you like about him, what makes him special to you, and how glad you are that he's even in your life
2007-05-06 20:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by *Intellectual* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wear a revealing dress when you guys have a movie night and snuggle up so he is looking down it when he looks at you. that may be the night 4 u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
kisses,
me
2007-05-06 20:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by funyetsassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him
go all out without holding back
let him feel loved
2007-05-06 20:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by teekapeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋