My mom and her dad (my grandad) fall out alot.. and this time it was a big argument.. and my dad told me i could never talk to my grandad or nan again.. we live far away so it's impossible to see them.. but i've been told to cut off contact all together.. i've said he is my grandad so it should be up to me, but he hurt my mom really bad.. and i don't want to hurt her more by going behind her back and talking to them.. you may say that it will blow over but it has happened so many times for months on end, and this has been the final one as she has asked to be removed from his will and changed our number. It just doesn't seem fair.
2007-05-06 11:49:05 · 4 answers · asked by lovin_yooo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
write your dad a letter and tell him how you feel
2007-05-06 12:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by kay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respect your parents wishes for the time being. You're right not to sneak behind their backs. You live with them so you should respect them. It sounds like your mom is very hurt. Right now she needs to know you've got her back. Just be consistant in mentioning (occasionally) that probably, someday, you'll be contacting your grandparents again.
Never is a long time, though. Harsh feelings tend to fade with time.
At Christmas, tell your parents that you'd like really like to send your grandparents a card (ask them if they'd like to sign it, too). They might not want you to, but it IS Christmas and it's just a card. Be persistant. Respect them if they say no. This sort of thing can take years to mend. If not this Christmas, try again next year. Skip Father's and Mother's Days for your grandparents, though. That would just make your parents mad all over again.
It might take years for things to become less volatile. You may have to wait to contact your grandparents until you're 18. I hope that won't be the case.
2007-05-06 20:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by kime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did gramps do to your mom?You should ALWAYS stand for whats right even if your favorite loved on blood or not is in the wrong. It is also foolish to try to keep a destructive relationship going no matter how much you love the person or if you are related to them.When you turn 18 ,you can have a relationship with anyone you wish.Youre parents are responsible for you and usually they know whats best.
2007-05-06 19:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should stop contacting your grandpa and nan just because they had an argument with you Mom. It's not fair from your parents to ask you to cut contact.
Contact them, but make sure they don't tell or something. Don't tell your parents about it.
I don't think you should be caught up in the middle.
2007-05-06 19:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋