2007-05-06 11:35:22 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How miserable do you want your young life to be if you continue to stay with this cretin? Are there any VALID reasons he doesn't want you to be with your friends--are they gang members, druggies, something that would directly affect your health and well-being? The answer is probably no. What's happening is this guy is already a control freak. He may be insecure, but if you give him the power to dictate to you who you see and don't, it will just get worse. First it's your friends, then your family, then you can't go to school or to work because heaven help you if you talk to someone he doesn't like or gives you an idea that you could be free and independent with a mind of your own. This guy could very well be on his way to being an abuser. What happens if you do continue to see friends/family--how is he going to react--twisting your arm, dragging you off, shutting you away?
I think you already know the answer to your question. You just want the validation you're doing the right thing. Find someone who respects you and trusts you to find compatible people to hang out with. You make the decisions about your life; not someone else.
2007-05-06 11:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by goldie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty controlling. I can understand him letting you know how he feels about your relationships with others and you, if you love him and respect his feelings/opinion, reconsidering whether those relationships are something that you want to keep in your life.
But, on the same note, he should listen to your feelings and opinions about these relationships and show you love and respect, too.
If you don't/can't communicate with each other and treat each other with love & respect, then you should both move on & find someone else.
2007-05-06 11:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HECK NO!! NO guy in the WHOLE WORLD has the right to tell you who you should hang out with and who your friends should be! The ONLY reason he should suggest (and just SUGGEST... not TELL you..) ANYTHING like that is if he KNOWS that the person is just being your friend to take advantage of you or something like that.. but other than that, if he is telling you who your friends should be... GET RID OF HIM!
2007-05-06 11:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by emblebeegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you dating my daughter's former boyfriend? Get rid of him if you feel he's trying to control you or influence you in any way to do things the way he wants them. A relationship is a part of you and a part of him -- not just him. Tell him that you cannot be in a relationship with him if he's going to be so controlling and untrusting.
2007-05-06 11:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him know that you do not appreciate him dictating who should or should not be friends with. If his behavior does not change after that, then you leave him. Also, if he changes for a short time than goes back to his old ways or shows other controlling behavior, you should leave him.
2007-05-06 11:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by Tina #1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he is taking away your rights as an American. You are an adult, you choose who you hang out with. and he is a boyfriend, not a husband, so dump him now before you get married, have kids, and he starts beating you.
but you seems to be volunteering for this so its up to you. why do you have to ask.
2007-05-06 11:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl no man can ever tell you who u are friends with and a guy that thinks he can is just messed up he dont care about you he is probably useing you
2007-05-06 11:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, miss jade, I would say if you're old enough to have a boyfriend, you're old enough to make your own choices.
Sounds to me like he is the controlling, jelous type.
Do you really need that?
How you answer this question should be the same answer
for the one you asked.
2007-05-06 11:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by doug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what you are going through and i am having the hardest time with it, i dont know what to do either...but i've learned to cope with it because there are so many feelings towards him. I guess it just depends on how deeply you feel about it. If you dont really care, dump him, if you love him then i guess its all up to you
2007-05-06 11:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by gallygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in high school, I had the same problem. When I first started dating him, he was fine, but after a while he started controlling who I could be friends with and who I couldn't be friends with. Because of that, I lost all my friends because I didn't talk to them anymore. That was no fun, please dump him before he becomes really controlling and starts doing things that hurt you.
2007-05-06 11:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋