And from now on i have decided to be good to them, what can i do to make them happy. I am 16, althogh i am not really bad, i did normally have 'temper tantrums' sometimes. and lol this is embaressing to say but cry when i didnt get my way,
2007-05-06 10:52:56 · 15 answers · asked by the_simple_life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm the single parent of a son who will turn 16 next week.
What makes me happy is when he is helpful without being asked to contribute; when he works hard at his schoolwork; and when other people tell me what a nice kid he is. I recently went away for a couple weeks and I got a HUGE hug when I came home! That made me feel good too.
Like all teenagers, he has his irrational outbursts that are fueled by hormones and he can be lazy at times. I will address those as they occur to remind him that such behavior is not acceptable, but I don't go overboard because I know to some extent that he is still learning how to control it. He has generally earned a lot of freedom by showing that he is responsible and bringing home good grades.
He may argue when he doesn't like what I tell him, but I explain that my decision is based on what is best for him because I love him -- and my decisions have proven to be good ones in the past, so he'll begrudgingly comply. We stay close by communicating honestly and openly. He talks with me about things that are going on in his and his friends' lives, so that lets me know that he trusts me and respects my opinions.
2007-05-06 10:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are growing up. It is very nice and also very wonderful, especially as the years go on, to get along as well as possible with your family, and to enjoy them. Teenagers do need some maturity to realize that. It makes life a whole lot better than the temper and whining that seems to be normal. Just remember that your parents really do have life experience, and they do tend to know a thing or two, and that they care a whole lot about you..
It is all about respecting each other, and all I can say is, good for you that you understand that.
2007-05-06 10:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Nanneke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my opinion is leave them alone. Keep on being good. Help them out around the house.
And then they'll realize that you are working-hard to make them happy. Maybe find a job and act as though you can take responsability's and then they will treat you right in return.
However don't get yourself worked up over something like this, because you are a kid your their child and of course kids or worse teenagers will act like that sometimes.
I f this does not work or you find that they are still not happy with you, than you can have a 101 talk with each one and found out how they feel about you and find out what they want you to do, so they can enjoy your company much better!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK on everything!!!
MUCH Loveee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!++____+++<<___>>
2007-05-06 11:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum replaced into previous college and replaced into in no way great with mushy feely. i will relatively say I have not any recollection of her hugging me as a teenager. in actuality, she in no way hugged me until eventually I hugged her when I left for Uni. Now every time I return from being away to circulate to I hug her and he or she would be in a position to often come to hug me first, or perhaps my spouse. That stated i comprehend she loves me yet merely wasn't soft in showing it for some reason. (She grew up in the 40s so as which would be something to do with it). I whether am a hugging device so do no longer think of badly of it. Why do no longer you merely hug them as quickly as, it might make a distinction.
2016-10-04 11:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them! Your parents will always be there for you 'No matter what' Parents know at any age we all throw tanturms and cry! Communication is key talk to them about anything and everything! They only have ur best interests at heart. Good Luck
2007-05-06 11:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything special, just grow up and be responsible.
to know they have raised a decent and responsible young lady is happiness enuff for any parent.
by the way, ur already growing by recognizing that u could be a better child.
2007-05-06 10:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by miss lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do things that you normally wouldn't do for them, for example, make them dinner, treat them to a movie, clean the house etc...
also, please do control your temper tantrums. I'm pretty sure they will he happy if you help yourself too, so if its BIG problem in your life, take some meditation classes, or some counseling.
2007-05-06 10:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by empyreal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you love them. Say you know sometimes you don't act as good as you could but will try to do better in the future, but you wanted them to know how lucky you feel to have them as your mum and dad.
2007-05-06 10:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lord L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How lovely that you realize how much you love and need them. Don't beat yourself up when they return and you still get miserable with them, that's all normal for a teenager. I think being polite and helping with chores is most appreciated even if that isn't communicated. You don't need to get them anything special, just do your part daily.
2007-05-06 10:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do something special for them make them feel that you need them like give them a night out or tell them that from now on that you won`t cry if anything happened without your choice
2007-05-06 11:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Advicer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋