2007-05-06 09:31:36 · 74 answers · asked by little_friend 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think your supposed to, but then what's he going to do with it
Give it to his next fiancee??..............I'd just sell it and spend the money on yourself if I was you!
2007-05-06 09:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by pstzqueen 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No. Once you get an engagement ring you're not supposed to break up..an engagement ring comes before marriage right? So try and solve the problem. If it's unsolvable.. i don't think it's a matter of having to but rather of wanting to give it back..i mean if you broke up would you still want to wear that ring? I probably wouldn't..
the implied idea in this answer is hopefully you wont' break up - and sorry if you have already - but if it happens then what does it matter what befalls the ring??
Anyway i don't think whoever gives you an engagement ring and then has the guts to leave you has any right whatsoever to ask it back - at any time, if that's what's behind the dastardly question...whoever left you can go and buy another one for the next girl.((
in brief, be merry, fingers crossed and cheer up!
2007-05-06 11:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by seafront2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely! Accepting an engagement ring is sort of like entering into a contract. If you break the contract, you give back the token that represents the contract. Let the poor guy return the ring and get his money back so he can afford to buy a ring for someone else in the future.
2007-05-06 09:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by claireag 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
According to common law, the ring is a symbol of a contract yet to be fulfilled.If the woman breaks the engagement, she should give it back. If the man breaks the engagement, the woman should be under no obligation to return it.
2007-05-06 13:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by bubbabear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ring is just a symbol of the agreement to marry. If that agreement is not performed, then those involved should be restored to their former positions -- as they would be if the contract was for, say, the delivery of a bushel of wheat -- and the ring should be returned to the person who first had it. But if the donor backs out, the donee should keep the ring, because a person who breaches contracts should not be rewarded for doing so. Spinnell v. Quigley, 785 P.2d 1149 (1990).
So yes- you should give it back to avoid a legal battle.
2007-05-06 16:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by funschooling m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette books will vary on this, but having been through it myself - my thoughts are...
If you are the one who ended the engagement, then give the ring back. However - if he is the one who called it off or did something wrong to cause the break-up, then I am not opposed to keeping it.
Either way - in the end it is a ring you will not ever wear again, so if you do keep it the only reason to hang onto it is for monetary purposes.
2007-05-06 09:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by shanndawn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he presented the ring to you as an engagement ring and not as a present for Valentine's Day, your birthday, Christmas, etc., then you should return it to him. If the ring was given for those kinds of occasions and as an engagement ring, you may keep it. The question is? Why would you want to keep it?
2007-05-06 11:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it was a gift so technically you are not required by any law to give the ring back - however, it is a symbol of your unity and you'd make a better statement and look like the better person if you just give the ring back. Selling it? How trashy can you get.
2007-05-06 10:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
uuuuh ... I guess it depends ... I don't think I would want it back, what would I do with that horrible reminding of what happened .... and I know I wouldn't want to wear an engagement ring that was once on some other girl's finger.
If it's you who's breaking up, you should offer the ring back. If he broke up with you maybe you should ask him if he wants the ring back. If it was a nasty breakup, maybe it would be nice to throw the ring into his face hoping for him to have an extra memento: a nasty bruise.
2007-05-06 09:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by tricky 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances surrounding the break-up.
For instance, if he left you standing at the altar, I'd have to say no, especially since the bride's family, traditionally, pays for the wedding and reception. But if he was a faithful, decent, loving boyfriend and you cheated on him, or got cold feet and backed out, I think you should give him back the ring.
2007-05-06 10:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ettiquette requires that if a lady breaks off the engagement , the ring is to be returned. If a gentleman breaks off the engagement the lady keeps the ring as compensation for his breach of promise.
2007-05-06 09:36:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋