Friday was my b-day,I went out to dinner w/family and then spent the night w/my boyfriend,he needed money,I loaned it to him and he was suppose to pay me back last night and never did,says he will Monday,now I am short for on my one of my bills..This is not the first time.Please do not call me stupid when you answer this.
2007-05-06 09:00:33 · 23 answers · asked by shy_smileyfun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not good, make sure he pays you back, and stress that his not paying you back when he committed to, hurts your life. Then I think you should take a break in the relationship until he gets his life together and is more respectful of you.
2007-05-06 09:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by lauren c 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you don't want to wait for him to pay you back so you can pay your bill, you could either ask your parents to loan it to you or take out a payday loan, and get your bill paid.
As for your boyfriend, what did he need the money for? If this is not the first time you've been thru this with him, I suggest that it be the last time. What would you do if it wasn't just a bill, but rent money or gas money to get to work? You'd be screwed. Tell your bf that you neeed that money back, like 5 days ago, so you can pay your bills on time. And if he's not understanding or acts like a jerk, let him go. Find someone who's self-sufficient.
2007-05-06 16:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by melissa_53105 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to ask the "First Bank O' Mom and Dad" for a loan so that you can pay off this bill... and then pay them back when you get the money. That's a really short-term solution, but with the situation you're in right now, that might be all you can do for now.
Once you're back on your feet, give him the boot, because if you loaned him money once, he's going to take advantage of you and get angry/upset (and maybe even hurt you) when you decline to give him some... and you don't want that, do you?
Hope this helps, and good luck.
Sparky
2007-05-06 16:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will have to ask him for it come Monday and tell him that he promised and that it was money you were going to pay a bill with ,but you trusted him to give it back like he said. If he doesn't pay it back then you need to stop loaning him money. When he asks again, tell him the truth that you just don't have any money to loan him.
2007-05-06 16:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been there its a hard call tell him you cannot loan him anymore money and you sound pretty good about finances if he was not around i hate to say it maybe you need to not loan him money take care of yourself ur not stupid you just have a kind heart like i did at one time but now i have found someone new who has showed me he is responsible for his part we live together and i don't know what to think when it comes to a man not asking for my help
2007-05-06 16:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by tlc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great life lesson.
Do not loan what you cannot afford to lose.
A better lesson is to not loan money at all.
Now you are late for you bill payment. Hopefully it will not damage your credit rating.
If there is a penalty, be sure to let the boyfriend know that he owes you that also.
From your story, it sounds like he is a loser. You should lose him. Anyone who borrows your money on your birthday instead of giving you a present should find another girlfriend to take advantage of. There are plenty of them.
2007-05-06 16:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He blew it! He's not responsible for his money and is counting on you to cover his debts for him since you're his girlfriend and you're good for it.
Stop it! You're not his bank. When he borrowed the money and didn't pay it back the first time, he put a strain on your relationship and your finances. Now you're his debtor and you're both in debt. That's not healthy. Better to be in balance to create harmony.
Maybe you could say you won't go out with him until he pays you back. Then tell him to borrow from somebody else next time. Maybe you could charge him interest when he does pay you back. He gets to pay your bills for the next month or something.
He's a leach is he keeps bleeding you dry. Cut him off while you still can. He'll sink you and then find someone else to be his financier when you go belly up.
2007-05-06 16:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have HIS financial life together and it's effecting YOU. Remember, YOU are your number one priority. Ask him to give you as much of the money back as possible now and ask your family and friends for some as well.
Don't lend him any more money. I know you want to express your love for him by being there for him, but it's a two way street. If he's not being there for you, then you have every right to not be there for him in that department. Try to help him organize his spending by eating at home and watching a movie instead of going out.
2007-05-06 16:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Bood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1. Don't "loan" money you can't afford to lose.
#2. Don't loan him any more money. His financial problems are not solved by First National Bank of You. He needs to better manage his money.
Obviously, he doesn't think it's important to keep his promises of paying you back. Call your bill and try to make arrangements to pay later.
We all have to learn hard lessons when it comes to money. You are just learning one of those lessons.
2007-05-06 16:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by Lele44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you need the money for the bill. You aren't stupid. But once should have been enough. I know he is your boyfriend and all, but he should be able to pay for it on his own. My personal opinion is that if he has done this more than twice in a month or over 5 times in 2 months, you have to get rid of him because he doesn't like you for you, but he likes you for your money.
2007-05-06 16:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by Caiti 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're not stupid hon, just a wee bit too trusting and of course it's natural we want to help out people we care about and it's natural we trust them.
The thing is, he obviously knows that you will part out with money and then he feels it's ok to chill on paying it back. Don't get me wrong, but thats something you taught him was ok by your actions.
Start saying no to him about loaning money, his reaction will tell you a lot trust me.
2007-05-06 16:08:08 · answer #11 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋