which = feelings.....she doesnt like expressing her feelings at all? i wonder why this is? we have been dating for 7 months, have had sex for the 1st time a few months back and everything is going great. so why doesnt she be more expressive with her words. she hugs, kisses, touches, and all that great stuff...she claims that i am amazing and all that and we even have a pet name for each other, but she doesnt speak what she feels. how do i change this, or do i change this, or does she have to come out of her own shell on her own accord?
2007-05-06 08:59:21 · 11 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you told her that you like to hear these words from her? If you have give her some time to get used of the idea of expressing herself this way and lead by example. Maybe she does not know what to say and is afraid to be seen as foolish. It is likely something that is outside of her comfort zone, encourage her. When she does verbalize, let her know that you appreciate it. Don't make a big deal out of it, a warm smile and a comment like I love hearing that from you will give her confidence. You can remind her in subtle ways that this is something that you like and be sure to address her desires as well. Good luck.
2007-05-06 09:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask her why she's not so expressive? Some girls just aren't but if you're loving and caring and tell her she's great all of the time, and she doesn't say it back, then there is something wrong. My ex never used to be expressive and it would get on my nerves. After a few months he told me it was because he felt like expressing feelings is a sign of weakness. Maybe it's the same with her and she doesn't want to get hurt.
She needs to come out on her own but you should talk to her about it.
2007-05-06 09:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by Bood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a nice change to hear about a female who wont express her feelings, and her man who wants her to. But maybe she's just expressing them in ways that you're not noticing? Physical expression should matter more than I think you're letting it. After all, actions speak louder than words. If she's been hurt in the past, that could be keeping her from voicing anything. Maybe she thinks that if she doesn't say it out loud, it would hurt less if anything were to fall apart. Obviously that wont work, but it would justify her not saying anything. Tell her how you feel about her, about your relationship. Maybe that will prompt her to do the same. If not, talk to her about it. Let her know that while you know she cares about you, you'd like to hear about her feelings too. But be prepared that she just may not be ready yet
2007-05-06 09:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by lehua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one you can't change a person ever. They have to decide to change. I'm not all-knowing but maybe she's afraid to open up because she's afraid she'll lose you or get hurt. She could just not be use to it as well. Be patient and loving. Maybe let her know how it makes you feel and if ever she wants to talk you're there for her. Show her that through your actions. If she has any friends/ family maybe ask them if she's normally like that. Hope it works out.
2007-05-06 09:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Adani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have a difficult time verbalizing their feelings. Unless it appears she's repressing a good deal of anger or some other negative emotion, it's probably not a big deal. Seems she expresses her feelings towards you in other ways. If it's a big deal, you need to let her know. If it's not, let it go.
2007-05-06 09:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frnd, if she touches, kisses and calls you by your pet name... but she is simply & just short of words then not at all worry....
She is showing you her luv by all this way sex, kissing and names thts what really matters.... saying and mean nothing is nothing... ! so action is louder than words....
Dude maybe you may teach her to speak a little more your way, but seriously, dont worry much on this baseless stuff.... you might not know what more wonderful stuff u may b missin by jus thinking abt this small issue.... do well with your wonderfull girl....
2007-05-06 09:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by Romps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being more honest with her, tell her how you are feeling, and she'll probably feel more comfortable to open up to you.
Some people just don't like opening up like that, cause it makes them more vulnerable...but if you've slept with her that leaves someone very vulnerable
Have you tried asking her? Thats probably going to be the best way to figure that out.
Good luck
2007-05-06 09:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Saying the "F word" is expressive mostly for people with limited vocabularies. It is not used by polite people. Be happy you have a classy girl who does not stoop to using vulgar vocabulary to express her feelings.
2007-05-06 09:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if u love her stop droppin the f bomb ok promise to her every time u say it u will put $1 in a jar u want to keep ur money so u quit easy as that!
2007-05-06 09:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why do you feel the need to change people?
2007-05-06 09:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋