my dad won't let me date! every girl goes through this. i'm 15 and i sneak around to date guys. hard to do...

Question

what should i do?
keep sneaking? cause that gets me in SOOO MUCH trouble...i've been on house arrest for 5 months now and summers coming and i'm going to be soo bored.
i can't talk to him cause he won't talk about it OR give in. i'm afraid of him too...plz help. cause my ex who we've been on and off for 2 years, we are really in love (honestly) and wanna get back together. i love him soo much and i can't ignore it. what should i do?

Answer 1

go out with me

Answer 2

Well my mom said I could not date till I was 16. So I showed her and got pregnant at 15. Don't do what I did, it has been a rough struggle raising a kid so young. Now she is 17 and I am afraid that she will do the same. I am just getting to go to college at 33. I did not even get to finish high school because I had to quit to get a job. So I missed all the fun stuff like prom. I don't regret having her but I missed out on some stuff I would have enjoyed. Listen to your dad he knows best.

Answer 3

if I was in your position. I would talk to my Dad. I guess i never really had a problem with my parents not allowing me to date, but I will try to give you my advice. Talk with him. Be completely honest. I know that it will be really hard, but talk with him. Ask him why he doesn't want you to date, probably because he has a fear of you getting pregnant at 15...but let him know that you are smart and responsible. Tell him that you feel like you are old enough to make decisions of your personal life and that you will deal with any consequences that arise. Tell him that he is making it really hard for you, and that you hate sneaking around, but you really care about this guy, and you want to see him. If he lets you date, it would be alot easier for the both of you, as he wouldn't have to worry about where you are. You could let him know when and where you are going at all times. Tell him how good he treats you, and tell him that you would really like your Dad to meet him. That might put his mind at ease.

If you honestly can't talk to him, like you say. Write it in a letter, and leave it on his desk. At the start of the letter explain why you can't talk with him about it, and how you wish he could be more open to understanding, at least by listening to what you have to say.

Just be honest with him, and think about what you want to say before you say it. Dont tell him that if he still chooses to not let you date that you will continue sneaking, cause that would just piss him off further if he is stubborn.

If it doesn't work out, try to negotiate that if you listen to what he says, maybe you can start dating at an earlier age than he desires. If anything, just have fun and be a kid. You are still living under his house, so you should respect what he says. He is just looking out for you, even if it doesn't really seem like it now.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Go ahead and keep sneaking out. Your parents won't be able to trust you worth anything. Realize you're about to turn 16--in most states that's the magical age of driving. If I had a child I couldn't trust to follow my rules regarding dating, then I certainly wouldn't trust her enough to follow the rules regarding driving.

Parents set up rules for their children, not to keep them from having fun, but to keep them safe. I realize you think your folks have just enough brain power to sustain life, but they have been around the block a few more times than you have, and they know a few more things about life than you do. If you would just accept that fact, your life will become much eaiser. I'm assuming your rule in your house is you can date when you're 16--that's the rule in my house. There's a good reason for it as well, and when you're an adult, you'll realize it. If you don't agree, then when you're a parent, you can let your kids date at 13 if you'd like. But for right now, you're the child, you have to follow your parents rules, or suffer the consequences. Parents do have to power to make a teens life pretty miserable, pretty quick. They don't like doing it, but they will until they feel the kid has learned whatever lesson they haven't learned.

So why don't you try a novel approach, and simply follow the rules your parents have set up for their house? I think you'll find your life much easier when you do.

Answer 5

I will tell you a story of a 15 yr old neighbor of mine.
She is 15 also, and has been in and out of jail and has been arrested. Goes to a special school for 'punk' kids. She goes to school when she wants and has the cops at her door when she doesn't show up.
She hangs out with kids that are older and adults that will buy her cigs and drugs. She sleeps with men and kids her age.
And now, she's pregnant!
If you think for one moment about how you would feel if you had a child your age and all the things that could happen. You will learn over time to appreciate what your dad says and appreciate that he is doing what is right for you.
I wouldn't let my daughter, or son roam free at that age either. Way too much stuff can and will happen over time.
Why are you afraid of your dad? Does he hit you? If he is you need to talk to your school counselor. If he just yells alot when you ask him over and over the same thing he said no to you about. Then stop being a pain in his rump! And respect your father!

Answer 6

House arrest? I love how the Americans do things. 15 is a little young to be indulging in serious dating, and if your parents don't allow it, you should obey their instructions. So what happens if you get in an accident or get abducted or something while you're sneaking out. Your parents have no idea where you are, Young people these days are so thoughtless

Answer 7

hello keeyla.It seems like a really big problem...unfortunately you are too young to leave your house so for the next 3-5 years you need to be patient or deal with the problem.Look you said your dad doesn't want you to date and doesn't want to talk about it either..but what about your mom,is she ok about it?cuz first you could do is tell her to discuss this with your father and make him see that this is completely normal...if your mother can't help you it might be some aunt,cousin etc who can......anyway it is risky to sneak out all the time so if this situation doesn't change you can find a friend who can help...i mean you say you go over her place instead you go at your boyfriends and noone knows the truth...but either way u can't sneak out because as you said there is going to be a big punishment ...be kind with your father i know you are mad at him but try to get close to him and talk to him .It'll help trust me but first you have to communicate with him.Finally you have to gain his trust again...

Answer 8

you should do what your dad says. he is right . he knows what happens at 15 . you should just spend 5 minutes on here and look up all the questions you can find about i am pregnant i am 15 . that is why your dad does not want you out with boys not to mention all the drunks that drive a girl around and she ends up dead.
maybe you can suggest some compromise like have the boy over to the house go out in the day time. once you do that then early evening dates.
buy some condoms really go buy some keep them in your purse all the time . if your dad sees them just explain your not having sex but at the same time your not going to risk having sex without them ever.

Answer 9

It does sound like Dad is unreasonable. Is Mom not there to help you out?
One idea would be to bring your friend to the house to do stuff while Dad is there. If Dad allows this, use it as an opportunity to get Dad to like the guy. I know it is boring but it would get him used to your friend. After he builds up some trust, you could take the next step of going to movies, parties, shopping etc.
Good luck.

Answer 10

it's completely natural to love someone, to be loved and to date guys. sometimes it's hard for parents to accept it, especially for the fathers if their doters start dating.
you should not let the chonservativity of your dad to destroy your normal intentions to be with your love.
do you know any of his friends who has an influence on your dad. can you maybe talk to any of them, asking him to help you. if not, then ignore your father's orders, because he has no right. ok, he can punish you and lock you in your room...but i don't want to suggest you to hide such a thing , because it's stupid....so be ready to be punished. If you survive all the punishments and still stay with the guy you love...he finally will understand. But, don't forget, you have to fight and during that fight you'll also find out whether the love you were talking about was strong and right.

Good luck

Answer 11

Your dad knows what is best for you,,, why not try paying attention in school, getting good grade, so you can learn to become an adult and a productive member of society,,, dating is not such a big thing, and there is plenty of time for that when you get older, so be a kid, and get an education then worry about adult stuff later,