Would you marry someone who isn't a virgin? I would feel more incentive to marry someone who was raped just in case society looks down on her. I would marry someone who lost their husband. As for someone who indulged in sex, I would marry them if they have asked for God's forgiveness and repented. Now I'd expect the same from the girl, only to marry me if I have repented. This question applies to both genders, this is not just a male's point of view. Now that I have cleared some things up.
What are your thoughts and opinions? Please this is not an attack, I just want your opinions.
2007-05-06 08:30:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This question is directed to religious people not atheists
2007-05-06 08:38:24 · update #1
mumof4, finally someone can agree, thanks
2007-05-06 08:39:45 · update #2
of course our personalities have to be compatible
2007-05-06 08:40:54 · update #3
blindly I totally agree with you
2007-05-06 09:03:20 · update #4
I think you're right. If someone had sex in the past but has repented, they are good as new. Someone who has been raped, it's so definately not their fault they don't count as non-virgins. It's the choice you look at.
To be fair though, if you're a virgin when you get married, you really hope your partner is one too just because you don't want them being able to "compare". My husband and I were virgins when we got married, and we are both so grateful about it. It's not easy to stay clean like that it's really a huge accomplishment. It is so worth it. We have something we can share only with eachother. People who've had sex before marriage are the ones more likely to have sex outside of marriage. It's nice when you've both been competely monogamous because you know they are trustworthy.
The only thing is, if you've waited your whole life for marriage, it would be hard to accept if your partner didn't. But if you're a good person and you really loved them you would be okay with it if they'd repented. It sorta seems more fair though if both of the couple came from the same history.
With rape, they did not chose, it wasn't their fault, and rape compared to loving married sex is something completely different. It is fair if someone who was raped married someone who has never had sex, that's without question.
But in my opinon the very best is where you are both virgins, (and by virgin I would include someone who was raped). There is no comparing, or paranoia that the other is comparing, you get to learn together, you have no worry of STD's and such.
Second of all, there is no excuse to say that people should have sex before marriage. There are no arguments that can be true against it. For example, some people say you have to see if your bodies are compatible. Just to let you know, bodies are adjustable and if they don't seem to fit at first, they grow to fit. And then also, if you are attracted when kissing then you will be attracted enough when you get more intimate. You never need to test someone before marriage.
2007-05-06 08:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by blindly_invisible 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure. Just becuase a man or women has had sex before doesn't mean they're tainted in some way, they've just decided to interact with another human sexually. Although I do admit if the person had had sex with an extreme amount of people I'd be put off but other than that it's really not a marrage breaker.
As for if someone told me to repent and ask for forgiveness for my sexual activites... I'd probably look at them like they were mental. But that's just an atheistic approach.
2007-05-06 08:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have an application for prospective dates. To rule out the unclean? I don't ask this to chide but your question leaves a gap in the love theory. Do you remember the prophet that the Lord told to marry a prostitute? Look it up
If you have faith trust God and know he will not lead you wrong. Good luck in your quest.
2007-05-06 08:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by j.wisdom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all of the things you've said. I would expect these standards from both my husband and myself.
2007-05-06 08:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by MumOf5 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be highly hypocritical for me to not marry a girl because she wasn't a virgin. There are attributes I look for a hell of a lot more than that.
2007-05-06 08:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by Eleventy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Holy sh*t- how old are you 10?
Grow up- you will love who you love.
Stop sitting back like some passive/aggressive freak and expect all of the answers to come from the invisible man in the sky.
Think, make a choice, and take responsibility for your own actions!
2007-05-06 08:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by gawd0 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
No problem marrying someone who is not a virgin. If that person is suffering from schizoid delusional mental disorder and thinks that invisible things in the sky are watching us, listening to us, influencing our lives etc... I would first strongly suggest that they get psychiatric help. After a successful treatment then I could consider marriage.
2007-05-06 08:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
Seems to me the ones that want virgins are also the ones pressuring girls for sex. You can't have it both ways.
2007-05-06 08:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If I love them, and they love me, the past is the past. I don't care what they did before they went out with me. If they care about me, than that is all I care about!
2007-05-06 08:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lina 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As an Atheist, I disagree with you.
2007-05-06 08:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋