I asked my Mom what she would like to do on Mothers Day, I said anything you like. She told me she wants to go to the cemetery to give flowers to her Mom and my dad who are buried there and then go out to eat at a nearby restauarnt.
Its her wedding anniversary to on Mothers Day...
We never did this before, I just find it depressing. I wanted to take her to a lunch in the park and shopping. But i just said ok and didn't argue. Should i just say nothing and go along with this?
2007-05-06 08:04:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think that you should go with your Mom if that's what she wants to do. In many cultures, visiting the cemetery where your family members are buried is something to do on special days.
I think that it shows your mother to be a very caring woman.
2007-05-06 10:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Katacha 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Jane your mom spend many years with your father and so needs to grieve this loss in her own way. It certainly will be a sad and depressing 1st Christmas without him for her. Perhaps you and your family can have her over for Christmas so she is not alone, or if you have siblings she can go to one of their houses. A nice thing that you might want to do is to take your mom to your dad's burial site around Christmas. You will probably both shed tears there but will leave feeling a lot better by just going and saying hi etc. It's difficult for people when they lose their other half so try and be as kind and honest with her as you can. If your dad's death was caused by disease or illness you might want to remind your mom that he is probably in a better place now and does not have to suffer any longer. Regardless of how dad died you might also suggest to mom that he would not want her to be grieving his loss for eternity and that you are sure that he would want your mom to continue with her life happily and make him proud. You sound like a wonderful, thoughtful daughter and your mom is blessed to have you in her life. Best of luck and I do hope that everyone in your family has a great Christmas, even if it does bring some tears for your loss earlier this year, and that Santa is good to you all.
2016-05-17 04:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe its fine. Its her day. Also, cemeteries MAY seem boring but its not. there is a lot of heritage and history there. There may be something you didn't know about your grandparents. Trust me, you'll learn a lot. There might be famous people buried there, and you could make a rubbing of their gravestone. If you don't think of it as "Eww, dead people," or "How depressing," but rather "I'm learning a lot about my family. This is really important to mom."
2007-05-06 08:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by circus.chica 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with going to a cemetary on Mother's Day. We(my family) usually go to one on mother's day. We usually bring my grandmother(my dad's mom) flowers. Its just something to make my dad and the rest of us feel better.
2007-05-06 08:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's Mother's Day so she gets to choose how to spend it. It may be a little depressing but it does us good to remember our relatives who are no longer with us (as long as we remember them and talk about them they're not really gone) and your mother has said she wants to go to a restaurant afterwards which should be a pleasureable activity.
2007-05-06 08:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Scot-Rob 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you did say anything she wanted. And mother's day is about honoring your mother. Your mother's mother and father were obviously important to her. As depressing as it may seem you will be showing her great respect by being there with her and showing her how much you care about her.
2007-05-06 09:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by ikeman32 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should go. You asked, she told you what she wanted to do. It doesn't have to be depressing. Ask your mom about some interesting and fun stories about her childhood and her mom, maybe her grandmom too. Continue your conversation at lunch.
It sounds like it should be a great time for mom and daughter!!! Don't let it be too depressing.
2007-05-06 08:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
absolutely go along. it doesn't have to be sad at all. cemetaries are actually very interesting places. some think it's morbid but, i find them fascinating. take a walk around after you've visited your loved ones. some of the arcitecture is amazing. especially in the older ones. try not to look at it as a place of death but of history.
2007-05-06 09:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.I visit the cemetery every holiday because my dad,grandmother,grandfather,
uncles and aunts all deserve to be remembered.
2007-05-06 08:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should spend the day however she wants to spend it, and not say anything about the cemetary business. It's not like you'll be there all day anyway.
2007-05-06 08:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by katzchen75 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋