I am 18, and my dad won't let me what I want.?

Question

*sighs*
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I hate it tbh, it's so horrible .. I can't have a tattoo, or another piercing. And I'm not allowed to stay with my friends in Cardiff. Some people have said 'Your dad just cares about you' but .. I don't know. I normally have to be in by 12am, too, if I'm going out.
I don't know what to do, as I'm scared of him.

;-/ HELP?!!!

Thanks.

Lucy x

Answer 1

As long as you are living under his roof then you should respect his rules and go by them. He cares about you that's why he voices his concern. If you are 18 and you think you can make it on your own then move out. When I was 18 I thought everything my dad told me was stupid with age I realized he was right and I was wrong but I had to experience it on my own. That's how we learn is from our mistakes. I am 30 now and when I go home(dads) to stay I am always in the house before 1 a.m. so he won't be up worrying about me,common courtesy.

Answer 2

Sounds like you have a faulty father. You may have to take matters in your own hands. Make rules for yourself like if you had a good father and then keep them.

Here are some good starting points:

Don't stay out after dark on a school night. Dad will think you're weard,

Be in your room by 10 pm on weekends. His head will spin.

Read books rather than watching TV.
Pick good books not ones that would shock Satan himself. Then share what you read with your parents. This will blow their minds.

Help around the house. A clean house really upsets bad parents.

Wash the dishes. Clean dishes really mess them up.

Have Clifford pitch in and help you mow the lawn and fix up the yard. They won't know what hit them. If Clifford won't do it get another friend who will.

Smile and be nice. This will drive them crazy.

Clean the old lady next doors yard. They will freak.

Act as if they have lived a little longer than you have and use their knowledge. This will ware them out.

If you do all of these things you have a chance of becoming the person that you want to be, and maybe just maybe you will be lucky enough to someday have a kid just like you.

Good luck.

Answer 3

well until you move out from your father's house you really do need to follow his rules. Besides, if I had a father like yours growing up I would be very proud to have him as my father and know that he does care about me and wants to see me to be safe from all harm. Your father is just trying to watch out for your best interest. Try sitting down and talking to your Dad about how you feel. Dont yell or get into an arguing match! That wont solve anything. How about trying to come to an agreement if you pay him some rent money and pay part of the bills for the house then you can go stay at your friend's house and you can stay out later....Try that and see what he has to say. I am quite sure your Dad will do a little bit of compromising with you at first then work up to the bigger stuff. Dont expect things to completely change over night because they wont. What ever you come to an agreement upon have it in writing and you both sign it and get it notarized. When he sees that you are doing that then he will know that you are not a child any more but you are a young adult. He will see things a little bit differently about you.
I hope this helps. Good luck in everything!

Answer 4

Lucy- he has the right to decide what is acceptable behavior in his home. He also has experience you don't have! Maybe you should talk to him and ask him why he feels as he does about tattoos, piercings and your friends.
A curfew is simple courtesy for others living in the same house so they aren't woken up when you get home late. And if you really don't like the living arrangement, then change it. Get a job and move.
You don't give any info why you are afraid of him. Physical abuse should be reported to the police. Rules and consequences you just don't like should be respected and lived with while under his roof.

Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Look its called respect. As long as u live with your dad and he pays the bills he deserves the respect of know where you are and what u are doing . Its not always just so he can run your life it is cause he does care and worries about you . When you dont come in until late he has to wonder where u are and if u are safe. To this day being alot older and married i still call and talk to my parents especially if i am going out of town so they wont worry . Its because i love them and want them around for a long time that i do this .I dont want anything to happen to them either. Just think about how you would feel if he went out and stayed with out letting you know how would you feel. No matter how old you get its a parents job to worry about their kids . Sorry if this isnt what u want to hear but its the truth . D

Answer 6

Your a spoiled brat. You are lucky he cares also, if its so bad, go to school, get a job go to college and then you wont even want to party you'll be too damn tired. Your dad is trying to keep you from doing things you'll regret but then cant change, i have tattoos but got them when i was grown, and piercings more piercings? there tacky and unprofessional and mean nothing atleast tattoos are art or could have meaning to them, and you can hide under your work clothes. Your 18, any age that ends in teen is a kid. you want to have more freedom , great, but you cant just do what you want, you live in their house, two options get out or shut up.

Answer 7

your dad is setting down "rules" for you-in a society where no-one seems to care anymore- you are very very lucky to have a dad who cares about what you do.Try to abide by his rules-and lam sure they will stand you in good stead for your future. Dad is The Head of the household-so of course you will be a little scared and apprehensive of him.Try to set a time when the house is calam and peaceful-and ask him to sit and chat with you - maybe if he sees you are responsible enough to make Good choices-he will ease up a bit. Ask yourself- "are all the things l want reasonable"- lm sure you will see-that some of them are not,so try and compromise with him on Things that matter.Talk is the key- and down the road a bit- l see a brilliant friendship-for yourself and your Father, show him now-how much you respect him- and he will respect you back. Good luck.love x x

Answer 8

Don't worry I'm 22 and my dad didn't know about my tattoo he just saw it... I still have to b home at 1am when i go out so don't worry i know what you going through, its not fun. But I'm sure your dad does love you speak to him and tell him how you feel. He is your dad you shouldn't be scared to talk to him, that's no way to live. Don't blame him for not wanting you have a tattoo or more piercings...and its better you don't stay with your friend , devil finds work for idle hands... Good luck!!

Answer 9

That's good that your scared of him. It seems like he's the enemy right know ,but you will look back over your life in about twenty years and be thankful that your dad cares so much for you. Just hang in there your almost out of the house anyway.

Answer 10

You and you dad may not see eye to eye, but enjoy the fact that you have a dad there to care for you. If you want him to allow you to do more maybe you need to talk to him like an adult and do not throw a fit when he won't let you do something.