2007-05-06 04:36:20 · 11 answers · asked by karen 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well we know you can hear us, just as we can hear you when you are arguing with your siblings, friends, or boyfriend or girl fiends.
Every one gets mad and everyone yells. everyone calls names or says hurtful things when they are angry.
I know that it is not easy for you as a child to hear that, But there are times that parents just have to get things out of there system. They are not fighting over the remote they are probably fighting over some major issues
Just remember that every one fights and most the time people don't always mean what they say when they are fighting.
Many times adults cuss, do to the fact that they are so angry that they can not think of a way to express them selves with words so they cuss and yell to make sure the other one knows for a fact that he or she is angry but often this is a waist of time do to the fact that neither one is really listening to the other one. they are just yelling in defence.
So honestly there is no point to it. Other then to releive our own frustration and it is very selfish of us to do.
I wish I could tell you how to stop it but it is not going to stop, until things get worked out between them.
Just like you and sibblings or friends.
stay neutral and try not to let it bother you and don't ever take it personal it is between your parents it is their problem and theirs alone.
Good luck hun and I hope things get better for you
2007-05-06 05:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, respect is EARNED... if your step dad uses name-calling as a way to get respect, well, he is probably emotionally immature, isn't very well educated and therefore has a limited vocabulary. darlin, it's wrong for parents or anyone to call you names... it hurts and you don't deserve it. About cussing -- well, i am 51 years old.. i never called my kids names, and would die before i called them an effing-anything. I do cuss on occasion, but i don't use cuss words in every-other sentence. Usually, i will cuss when i drop something, or am careless.. otherwise i just don't do it. I have been around people who use the "f" word in every sentence... what do i think of them? They obviously don't have a very good vocabulary, and sound like trash. It's your choice whether to cuss back at your parents, or not. But consider how it sounds, and how it makes YOU feel (not very good, i'm sure). If it were me? I'd walk away... Now i'm going to call your stepdad a name -- LOSER... sorry you are living with someone like him... sending hugs.
2016-04-01 10:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we tend to forget in the "heat of the moment"... I know I do. If it's upsetting to you (or any siblings), perhaps you could say something during a time when they're NOT fighting? My son (10 years old) did that a few years back, and it really made us look at the way we were conducting ourselves... if you do it RIGHT, your parents will appreciate it.
2007-05-06 04:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a minister I find myself telling parents many times how harmful it is for parents to argue or fight in ear shot of their children and how harmful it can be. Sometimes Karen it's like talking to a brick wall and many times the marriage is to far gone to save and who is hurt by this, the children. Many are left to feel as they are at fault and they simply are the victims of a marriage that wasn't meant to be. God Bless.
2007-05-06 04:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys who?, I do not cuss and neither does my hubby, when we disagree we do not yell either, I am sure my children sometimes hear us, but my hope is they learn to handle their disputes in the same manner
2007-05-06 05:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can hear your parents fight. They need to be able to express themselves just like you do. Parents are human, too. Tell them you hear them and it bothers you. When they begin to fight take a walk. Give them privacy. Try to talk to them together and help them solve their differences.
2007-05-06 04:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, even if it's never happened to myself. My parents are so quiet and so UNDA COVA they gave no outside pointers that they were having problems. They got divorced and are re-building their marriage. But the other's are right, people gotta express. Besides, it's nothing new, compared to what we hear at school. School cussin' is hard core and plain ear jarring.
2007-05-06 04:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by First L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure they know we can hear them. But they have to express their emotions sometimes. They certainly don't want to hurt you, they are just trying the best they can to solve their problems.
2007-05-06 04:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
not all parents cuss when having a disagreemant.
2007-05-06 04:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No kidding I'm wth you they know we can hear It they just yell REALLY LOUD!
2007-05-06 04:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋