I found out yesterday my 13 year old brother drew all over my yearbook i was furious i couldnt calm down when i got up this morning i started to yell and scream about it. my mom is now very stressed and i told her i was sorry but i do that so much it dosent mean anything anymore. I want to really mend things with my mom today but i dont know how because saying sorry dosent cut it anymore. And also ways for me to calm down so i dont freak next time.
2007-05-06 04:14:29 · 16 answers · asked by Gigi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How do i end things with my mom????
2007-05-06 04:21:16 · update #1
I mean how do i mend things with my mom? not end
2007-05-06 04:21:59 · update #2
I believe what you want is not to repeat loosing your cool. First of all try some deep breathing every day in the morning for five minutes all the while thinking of good things in life or better still pray if its ok with you. Then when you see something which makes you angry, try and put yourself in the other persons shoes and see why he/she did or say something which made you angry. I am sure if you learn to see things in other persons point of view you will be less likely to loose your temper. Patience is a virtue to be cultivated a,d will help you in all respects to make your life more pleasant and peaceful. I know it wont happen over night but give it a try and once your Mom sees this all things will fall in place between you two. Good luck and best wishes to you.
2007-05-14 01:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by sparks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first go to your mom and say " Mom I do love you very much but you have to accept that all people make mistakes and yelling won't make a difference...I'm sorry" Then when your brother does another bad thing think about him as a person he is your brother and like i said before yelling won't solve a thing. Tell him how much that stuff feels to you and that he ruined it. Tell him to please stop. Trust me I feel like I am you... i am 12 years old and I have the exact problems! I just tell on my brother a lot but that isn't making a difference. I t stresses my mom....
2007-05-12 17:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you feel like freaking out, I understand maybe raising your voice a little, but don't turn it into yelling and screaming. When you're done with your conversation, sit outside for fresh air, and if you live at a place where you can take a walk do that also.
p.s. your brother is really immature for a thirteen year old.
2007-05-14 08:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by colleenicole! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to relax more. Sometimes people fly off the handle more frequently because they are already stressed when something happened. I do not know what you enjoy but find ways to do quiet things. Talk more often about what is bothering you. Tell your mom you think you have a problem and that you are trying to do better. Maybe counseling is in order.
2007-05-14 08:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by TAT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax... try to live in present .. what has happened has happened.. you cannot change it .. what is going to happen is your imagination .. and leaving these two things.. just see how best can be .. how best can you use the present moment..
Remember.. small or big .. younger or older.. we are all humans .. we are liable too make mistakes.. and Every one has a right to be wrong .. so have i too .. and as i expect others to accept my this shortcoming.. we have to train our own mind to accept others as they are.. sure your brother did not gain anything by it .. he might have been feeling bad before you said anything.. certain moments we become impulsive.. slowly try .. we can change ourselves.. not others.. in the beginning just pretend .. to yourself .. to every one around that you are calm .. keep acting.. slowly it will become part of your own life.. in reality .. try it One day at a time.. only for now .. this day .. 24 hours.. and the time starts as and when you feel you are getting disturbed.. be on your guard... that is all .. go steady ..
2007-05-06 11:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by ddodo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screaming and yelling isn't the best way to handle the situation, however you had plenty reason to be angry.
Your brother needs to learn how to respect other peoples property.
Why apologise? Did your brother?
Put your things away, make it clear to him that he's not to touch them.
If he continues, give him a taste of his own medicine.
Don't get mad, get even.
2007-05-06 11:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by psycho_majic_666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a temper and when i'm mad i go walking for about 2 miles to burn that negative energy up. u don't want to stress ur mom to the point of making her sick either. learn to communicate w/o yelling and screaming. u see that it doesn't solve anything.
2007-05-14 11:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Audrean L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breath deeply and realize it is just a book. Go to your mom and maybe discuss the possibilities of your brother purchasing you a new one, after all he is thirteen and knows better.
2007-05-06 11:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever I get mad or angry, I simply drink glass of cold water. It cools me down. Sometimes that does not work, so I simply step outside the house to feel the fresh air as it clears my mind. Remember, what angers you controls you.
2007-05-06 11:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, was your brother punished for that? He should have been.
When something angers you, stop. Before you react, count to 20. While counting, think of how you will react after and how that will affect others.
2007-05-06 11:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋