2007-05-06 04:13:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Lust doesnt have much to do with love.
99.99% of your relationships that youre going to have in the world with people and God are NOT going to be sexual.
Sexual desire for your partner is basically something God made so that people could be attracted to and further enjoy the 2nd most important relationship that they will have in their lives; with their wives. (the first being God)
If I understand your Q even further, youre asking is it ok to first fall in love with how someone looks? You know as shallow as it sounds, that is really human nature sad to say. Whether we are shopping for a car, tools, shoes, plasma TVs, we enjoy the things that are asthetically pleasing and THAT is what initially draw us in and I dont think there is anything wrong with that intially provided there is growth later.
Now with marriage, it obviously runs deeper than that and the person that gets married thinking that sexual attraction is all there is to marriage is in for a REAL rude awakening. That is why so many of them statistically dont last past 1-2 years. We've really become a fast-paced, what-works-for-me at the moment, disposable society. It is impossible to adapt those principles to marriage because its supposed to be something sacred before God that is life-long.
2007-05-06 04:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. I would say that for most men physical attraction plays a large part at first but overall love remains long after lust fades. I have seen 90+year old couples remain in love until the end but lust had long since passed. Love is longer, stronger, and truer than merely lust.
2007-05-06 04:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love covers a multitude of sins. Lust can make the flesh sin. When we want something or somebody we lust after it temporarily until that desire is fulfilled. There are different types of love, a love for your spouse, love for a child, love for God, and love for others, Love is forever and not temporarily. "There are three types of sins God hates; lust of the eye, lust of the flesh, and the pride of live". So; basically lust is a sin, but not an unforgivable sin. This does not mean that we can lust and ask forgiveness and then repeat the sin over and over. We should not look upon someone lustfully and desire to have them. If we lust after someone we have already committed a sin because we have already desired them in our hearts. "If we know to do good and do it not, it is a sin unto you". So; there is a significant difference in love and lust.
2007-05-06 04:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by Fisherofmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many people that I love without lusting after. There are many different kinds of love. As for romantic love, lust is the temporary first infatuation, but Love is the fuel that makes the relationship last.
2007-05-06 04:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Julia Sugarbaker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is the counterfeit of Love. Lust is all about you and what you want, love is about the other person Therefore love must come first and lust should be far from you.
2007-05-06 04:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ethan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any set order. There have been some relationships where they started out as friends...and a love grew out of that then lust followed.
I think the most common way though, is to be physically attracted to someone and then grow into a love.
2007-05-06 04:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by Misty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lust would probably come first. (not saying that it SHOULD) It takes time to get to know someone. There is no "love at first site".
You can have love without lust. It would be a deep emotional attachment, but it would still take time to develop love.
In everycase infactuation comes first. Infactuation usually includes lust, however, it is not required of it.
2007-05-06 04:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by J R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love should come first, but lust is an important part of love, it seperates it from friendship.
2007-05-06 04:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger Ninja 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love should. Lust is much greater with it !!
I dont feel lust causes love, I think it causes dysfunctional relationships and jealousy !
2007-05-06 04:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by fivefootnuttinhuny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust. Look, from 200 feet away you see someone that floats your boat. You don't fall in love with her from 200 feet away. but you are lusting for her body from 200 feet. (And if you're real lucky, she won't have a face like Mr. Ed's). So you go up to her and start something up. Then, perhaps, love will happen. it's all very animalistic....course, we are descendants...
2007-05-06 04:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by conx-the-dots 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋