2007-05-06 04:09:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I would be more concerned with the fact of her being a non believer than not being a virgin.
This could create decision problems and arguments down the road when children are brought into the picture.
2007-05-06 04:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong.
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14
Marrying unbelievers is a surefire way to confuse your kids and ensures you will have a divided if not broken family. Many people have found that out the hard way.
Any 2 people can fall in love and get married. The problem is STAYING married that is the challenge after the puppy love wears off. Wow I notice a serious lack in immaturity to your Q in the answers! how does it make you feel to have bitter anti-Christ teenagers that havent sustained a relationship for over 6 months trying to give you advice on marriage?
2007-05-06 11:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can marry one who is not a virgin.
For an unbeliever, the Bible advises us not to do so.
Prayerfully consider this, because we never know what God wants. He may want you to marry with an unbeliever so thatshe/he can be saved. Mark the word prayerfully.
Remember God told Hosea to marry a prostitute. A normal cannot do that. But God had a reason for that; to use their union as a prophecy (For more info, read the Book of Hosea). It is most likely she changed at the end (I'm just making a pressumption for God's word doesn't returns back void)
I've seperated your statement because not all virgins are Christians.
2007-05-06 11:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by talleymark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To find a young woman to marry these days that is a virgin is extremely difficult. To marry an unbeliever is to be unequally yoked. If you are not a virgin and she is not a virgin, then you are equally yoked in your sexual immorality. That will cause you minor problems, but problems nonetheless. To be yoked with an unbeliever will cause you major problem, however, because you will not be united as one flesh, but shall live forever as two. this is contrary to the will of God, in which marriage is a joining of two into one. You and her will constantly be at odds over everything. Divorce is inevitable. If she will not convert to Christianity and agree to live as a Christian wife, then do not marry her. Do not listen to the yearnings of your sex hormones (the flesh) that cry out to you to marry her and satisfy your physical needs at all cost. You will be disappointed with the relationship. Any marriage that is based upon sex is doomed to failure. Why get married just to get a divorce? Nobody wins in a divorce because each soul is wounded and a wounded soul takes a long time to heal.
2007-05-06 11:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by Preacher 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hope that you prayed about this. It is always important for God to be in this decision.
The Scripture tells us not to be unequally yoked so no, it is not right in God's eyes that you marry someone who does not believe what you believe.
As far as her being a virgin, I am sure this is preferable, but I can't see you getting around this one. Do you trust her enough to know that she would be faithful to you within the marriage?
Marriage is a big decision, and a very life-changing one, do not take it lightly. Why not ask her if she would take a pre-marriage course with you, that way you can truly find out what expectations you seek from each other.
2007-05-06 11:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a person whom has been around for a while, I would really pray and wait upon God to lead me in this area. When we committ to marriage it should be for better or worse. But we also have to really count the cost, this means really give any issue a lot of thought if it will affect our lives for ever. This is a question that needs lots of prayer and patiences. I will pray God will give you an answer on this. If you love her and she truely loves you, you both can wait upon one another to see if this what god wants for you. When we are unequaly yoked we will have complications that could be avoided if we would just wait upon God to lead us in the write path.
2007-05-06 12:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Fisherofmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read 2 Corinthians 6: 14 "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?" Read on through v. 18 if you wish to read the promises if you keep His word.
2007-05-06 11:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by newshine1022 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the bible tells us not to become unequally yoked with an unbeliever....What good is light in the darkness? I have personally gone thru this myself as I was dating a guy for 5 years ( we were actually engaged) then I started following Christ & altho he believed in God, he had no intention of following Him....Today we are still friends & he has since then remarried...The decision is still very "well" within my soul that I made the right decision....
2007-05-06 11:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by Fairlady 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like it would be right for you to marry anyone at all until you get your priorities straight. Start with love. You need to love yourself, and it looks like you're mightily confused about that. Then, you need to be able to love other people MORE than you love yourself.
Your intolerant and judgmental prerequisites suggest that you view marriage as possession and you want your possessions to meet some insane standards of "purity." With such an ego-driven sense of self, you are never going to be happy.
2007-05-06 11:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by buddhamonkeyboy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not the dark ages - so you can do whatever you want, and so can she - the fact you're having to ask this question suggests to me that her future would be happier elsewhere as you're obviously not suitable for each other.
if you truely love the girl - let her go and find someone that you don't feel the need to question the value of on an internet forum.
2007-05-06 11:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by circusmort 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋