How do I evict my wifes mother and grandmother from my home when they are not on a lease?

Question

I moved them in 2 years this august because they were losing their apt.My wife was not happy with this but knew they were in a desperate situation so she agreed to allow them to move in temporarly.The temp situation has now become 2 years.They have no drive to find a place of their own since they have it so good here and get away with only paying $350/month for both! My mortgage alone runs me $1600/month.The rarely help with paying for food and contribute nothing towards the utilities.They have taken over my family room and have basically forced us to live in our bedrooms.I set their bedroom up with a 27 inch television,stereo,cable,dvd player and vcr to give them a hint yet they refuse to give my family the peace and quiet and together time we deserve since both me and my wife both work a full time and part time job.I have made all the steps for them by sending for apt applications and have sent for the paper work for assisted housing yet they still don't take a hint.I need advice.

Added: The tv I set up for them came from my room.I now have a 13 inch in my room and NEVER get to watch my 36 inch set in the family room.The room I gave my mother-in-law now looks like a crack house and emits the smell of a dirty cat since she does not clean up after her cat.My wife is allergic to animal hair and they know this! I have told them the cat has to go but my wifes grandmother cries when I do and we give in.We feel trapped in our own rooms.If give them a deadline to leave would I be "the bad guy" ?

Answer 1

Nope you will not be the bad guy if you set a deadline. You are being taken advantage of... big time.
If the deadline comes and no progress... start boxing up their stuff. Good Luck to you!

Answer 2

This is a very nutty, sticky, chewy situation. But take heart, the solution may not be as hard as you imagine. There are a few options open to you.

1. Make plain to the two ladies EXACTLY how you and your wife feel and that you would like them to find alternative accommodation. You must expect a degree of outrage and emotional blackmail from them together with attempts to make you feel guilty but do not allow these to affect you.

2. Having stated your case, offer every assistance to them in finding somewhere else to live. Remember, however bad things have become, these ladies are still FAMILY and must be treated with respect (not served with an eviction notice as some answerers have suggested). You may end up having to look for somewhere for them yourself (do a web search and print out details of apartments/houses which are for rent) but this is a small price to pay. Hopefully they will get the message and move out, at which point you should again give them any help they need. I would not suggest this if your lodgers were just friends or acquaintances but for family different rules apply. However, you must resign yourself to the fact that you are unlikely to have any more happy family Christmases or Thanksgivings with them again.

If the above fails, then you must take the more brutal option number 3:

3. Take your wife and move to another apartment. Keep your two lady relatives informed about what you are doing and why and make sure they know the timeline for the move. Hopefully, they will arrange to go somewhere else too, but if not then just leave them there. They will then become illegal squatters and will be evicted by the new owner (family ties and responsibility have to end somewhere!). Ignore any pleas from them about them being out on the street: if you have given them sufficient warning then they only have themselves to blame.

This is a hard one, and you shouldn't have to end up moving yourself. But for the sake of your marriage (which MUST NOT suffer because of your relatives) then moving out may be the only way. Hopefully, solutions 1 and 2 will be enough. Good luck!

Answer 3

let me tell u this...... your first mistake was getting them in there with out a lease.Family or not they should have had a lease.Secondly, you were nice enough to rent it to them for 2yrs at SUCH A LOW PRICE of $350, andthey not paying for any utilities?. if they intended to leave on their own they would have by NOW! But they rather play up to your wife i bet....and so she's probably in your ear tell ing u oh let them stay ,etc.

listen my advice to u is to tell them your moving to smaller place because the mortgage is TOO high and u need help paying it , OR you raise their rent every 6mos- a year,OR you can tell them hey we all gonna be on the street because u taking help butdont return the favor n helping you pay bills which keep the place running.

they just keep kicking you in the butt becasue u are being NICE , guess what no more MR. NICEGUY!

family or not do what you gotta do,handle yours.

they know they cant find no rent that cheap anywhere so you will get some results....trust me on that!

Answer 4

What a nightmare of a situation. Two years!?

You need to sit them down and tell them that while you didn't mind helping them out, it's time they find their own place. Don't apologize and don't give in to the tears. If you have the apartment applications or any other information that would be helpful, give it to them. Agree that you will assist with their search and set up a deadline.

If worse comes to worse, consider selling your house and moving to another one in the neighborhood. That would provide a firm date. It would also provide a home free of those rotten memories.

Answer 5

I just gance without reading your night mare . It really takes a woman to go way way way over the mark . And believe me these women generally are so teratorial , that you could be on the street without a crust and they wouldnt help . What have a man under my roof he might rape me !!!!!!.

Dont be kind to these Martitia hunts they taken you as a sucker for far too long anfd I'd have your wife out with them she is colluding .
Oh you wont realise how blissfull you will feel after you get rid of all this dross .
Do not have ONE kind action to them they will only see that as a weaknwess and work on it Be as HARD as Nails .
Go directly to the police and say they refuse to move dont take any well move next week because thewy wont it wil always be next week . Do not threat3en them with physcal violence under any circumstances as they will misconstrue this ( remeber have them fighting for thier survival , but not on your doorstep ) you could have thanm arguing between themselves I'll leave that to your cunning to work out .


Go to a counsellor it will be worth the $40 dollars to have a back up . You could tell the Therapist counsellor thet you will have a breaksdoewn if you have them staying there any longer this will hold weight in court and willl show that you are not aggressive and have tried a peacefull way out


DO NOT LET THEM HAVE THE MORAL GROUND !!!!!!
they play on this in and out of Court

Answer 6

Take the bigger tv and everything out of that room that is yours and put it somewhere they cannot get to.

Let them know that they have been there for far too long and need to find an apartment now.

Give them 30 days, then move their stuff onto the lawn outside and change the locks on the doors and do not let them in.

STOP letting them walk all over you. The longer you wait the more you are enabling them to not do anything to better themselves.

Answer 7

There are different laws regarding eviction depending on where you live. Let them know that they need to find a new place to live by a certain date. In the meantime contact your city or a lawyer for help learning the local laws and your options. If they show no signs of moving you may need them. Good luck.

Answer 8

There's no way but to sit down with them and be honest in saying that the time has come for them to find their own permanent place since the accomodation you extended to them is on temporary basis though it has been extended to two years. Ask them to give your family a chance to live on your own and them to start anew on their own.
Things get better when there is open communication. You'll never know, once you talked to them, everything will come in proper perspective. But if the result is negative, well, you still have to stick to what you have discussed with them.

Answer 9

My answer is this;
First of all get them out of your living room.
2 remove the cat(if they love it that much they will soon follow!!
3 Lay down some rules and don't be afraid that you will upset them.
4 You go in your livingroom and remove all things that are not yours.As for the tv. simple solution;Swap it with your 13" one and enjoy your large screen tv.
After all this they cannot wait to get into a home of their own.
Oh I forgot, present them with a fair rent and demand for back pay.
Yours Hendrika

Answer 10

I think honestly it has gone on too long. I think at this point (even though it will be hard) you should sit them down and explain to them that you and your wife would like your home back. Let them know that this was just a temporary situation and that you have done your part to help them out and now it is their turn to return the favor. I think tough love may be the road to travel here. Good luck!

Answer 11

No, you`re not the bad guy. If they don`t take the hint you`ll just have to outright tell them or find a suitable apartment for them behind their backs and surprise them, then they`ll have no way out. It might seem hard, but it doesn`t sound like you or yor wife have a lot of options left.