Ok.. Here is my situation. My mother in law has never liked anything I have ever bought for her. She never even says "Thank you" after she opens a gift from me. She knows that in my marriage I do all the gift shopping so she always acts like she hates it. I bought her a beautiful diamond necklace for Christmas and she has never even taken it out of the box. I went to over 15 stores to find the right one for her, and I was so hurt that she didnt even say thank you. Now, here is my problem. Obviously, I should get her a gift for Mother's Day, even though I dont want to. I dont want to make my husband look bad by not sending her anything. I have totally run out of ideas and I am tired of shopping for days with no appriciation. What should I get her for Mother's Day?
2007-05-06 02:00:36 · 19 answers · asked by jreed81283 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I have tried before to make my husband buy gifts for his family, but if I leave it up to him, nobody gets anything at all. Then it makes me look like the bad guy because they all know I'm usually the one who does it.
2007-05-06 02:11:01 · update #1
First, be the better person here. Give, expecting nothing in return - even though it hurts... you will know in your heart that YOU have done what is right. Live your own life. Don't let others impact how you act.. that is their choice..
gifts - look to her interests. What does she like to do/spend her time? - maybe a magazine subscription?
Last year I gave my mother in law, a pot of plantet, various herbs with recipes for their use... she loved this...
gift certificates for dinner out are nice - no cooking, no cleaning... and if she doesn't want to use it, she can give it away..
don't worry about what others do or don't do... live and be happy regardless!
2007-05-06 02:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Laura S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
now u know how your mother in law react when she receive your thoughtful gifts when she is not grateful for it, but if i were u just send her a card with music and note it that how much u want to be close to her and get to know her better and even though she probably not satisfy with u for her own son , if that was her problem that's her issue . all u have to worry about is your own man and still be thoughtful for his mother and other than that don't buy anything to expensive that she may feel like your buying her attention and she may be offend by ur richness and she may be plain old fashion type who wants something very simple. you have done your parts so all u have to do is be patient and be at your husband's side.
2007-05-06 07:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by WANTED !! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A great website that can help you narrow down gift ideas is findgift.com it has a gift wizard that will help you. It also has many sites that offer rush delivery to get that gift by Mother's Day. Good Luck with the shopping.
2007-05-08 16:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by fish spw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your husband do the shopping. It's his mom, his responsibility. Besides, the mom does like your gifts, why spend the time/money on anything she will refuse to get. You are not making your husband look bad by not shopping for his mother. She already knows he is doing it.
2007-05-06 02:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by jack-copeland@sbcglobal.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could take your husband shopping with you and pick out a gift from "us" (even if you're the one who got the gift). Have your husband with you when you give your mother-in-law her gift. So that way it isn't just from you, it's from you and your husband. Good luck!
2007-05-06 04:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by songbird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi...I see your problem and have been there myself. What wicked webs we weave...lol ...Is your husband the only son of your MIL by any chance? Might be jealousy. You know what I would do? In fact I have done this. Buy her a beautiful bouquet of spring flowers so she will have to display them and also with those flowers go and find a real nice opaque sun catcher, you know, the ones that have the beautiful stain glass so it really sparkles in the sunlight...this way your MIL would have to place the flowers on her table for everyone to admire and also the sun catcher might bring in the beams of heaven into her life to where she might be saved of her wrong doings towards you. Have a great day!!!
2007-05-06 02:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by shuggabhugga05 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your Mother in law is a thankless bitty. Simply stop sending gifts and start sending occasion cards. Forget the Mothers day gift...SHE ISN'T YOUR MOTHER. Hubby needs to pony up.
2007-05-06 03:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A gift card or cash if you must, so the only compliant she will have is the amount. I REALLY understand where you are coming from. Personally I stop trying now it is whatever amount my husband chooses. Do not let her get to you. It is honestly not worth your stress. Good luck.
Peace be with you.
2007-05-06 04:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a man's standpoint. Your husband should be part of this gift and if he is unwilling to be, tell him that there will not be a gift this time. You are not the one that looks bad here, your husband does.
2007-05-06 02:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by Swanee 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The absolute pleasant technique to flip him on is to shock him. Make the transfer on him in an amazing position or environment. Break any scheduling conduct you'll have additionally. The extra you speak approximately it, he's going to regularly develop uncomfortable. If you play the feminist factor of view...He isn't going to move for it.
2016-09-05 09:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋