who likes to throw the fact of an ex (whos been past for YEARS) that was apparently more approved of....and is constantly saying hurtful things to you and hurting her son too, who would only like to forget about the past? I dont want to ask him to stay AWAY from his own family but I cant take this...!
2007-05-05 23:13:51 · 14 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh...hahha, can I have a serious answer PLEASE?
2007-05-05 23:20:22 · update #1
I believe talking to her is out of question cause if it was possible you would have already done it...
So the only way to deal with her is to ignore her completely!
She says something to hurt you?...pretend you didn't hear it...or even agree with her...this way you'll throw her off and after a while she'll get bored and stop!
And if she doesn't stop you'll have train yourself to ignore her so it won't matter what she says!
My mother in law is a good person but a little offensive from time to time (for God knows what...I never got it)...so I have a perfect relationship with her just by laughing at her "jokes" and ignoring her stupid comments.
That's the only way to deal with the situation without hurting your husband by insulting his mother!
Best of luck and be strong!...nothing to fear there!:-)
2007-05-05 23:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jen C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, mother in laws, some people are blessed with great ones, but for the rest of us.... Not so much... My mother in law already didn't like me because I stole her one and only child and "little boy" from her. When we told her that we were going to be having a baby she got upset and said that I should've been more careful and this wouldn't have happened. (This was totally planned too.) She's been nothing but harsh to me the whole time we've been married, and now that I'm pregnant it's worse. Just the other day I saw her and she said to me, "Well, I bet that after you have this kid, you'll start practicing safe sex so you won't get knocked up again huh?" =/ She's also trying to bully me into naming our child what she wants. *sigh* Some people just take pleasure in being rude and thoughtless.
2016-05-17 03:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by clair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned to be prepared. You know it's going to come and when it does, simply stop her. Say "I get very upset when you bring up the past all the time, can you please stop?" Don't allow her to make you unhappy.
You are a grown up. Don't forget it, just because she is your mother-in-law. Hang on to that thought. She's a bully.
There's no reason to be rude or impolite. But you must be firm - in front of your husband, by the way, is good, so he can see you are polite.
2007-05-06 00:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DONT! u either take it or u dont? It never will change, not even after u thought it had! u cant ask him 2 choose u b4 her but u can limit the exposure! like sun block protect ur self before going outside, be prepared 4 it! Then ignore it, like u didnt hear. Or u can all together remove those rays, they cause cancer u know! In the end u have to take it bottoms up or u can sit on ur bottom:}
2007-05-05 23:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by momzrckz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of problems with my mother in law. I just try to stay as far away from her as I can. I have tried everithing and nothing work. Be sure that the ex she is talking about was as "mean" as you at that time. It is not you who have a problem, but her so stay away as much as you can
2007-05-05 23:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by ioana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband how much the mother is bothering you. Don't force him to avoid her, but limit your contact with her as much as possible. Just be polite when you have to be around her and don't give her any new ammunition against you.
I've never been able to understand this kind of nonsense, but I'm guessing the ex spent a lot of effort sucking up to Mom to still be in her good graces.
I wish you luck.
2007-05-05 23:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
MIL's are a very difficult breed to deal with. I feel for you, really. Speaking to your MIL may not help you. Some women are just hell bent on ruining their son's marriage just for their own special reasons. I find that the best thing I can do with my MIL is ignoring her and letting my husband deal with her ridiculousness. This lady even stole my wedding gift if you can believe it!
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2013-12-13 06:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother in law is crazy too. I rather not deal with her and husband also said she is nuts ,but i don't want come in between them. they have always had a bad relationship,but i just speak how i feel ,before i would not say a thing cause i was afraid,but now i speak up.The whole family is NUTS!
2007-05-06 00:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes mother in laws don't know how to let their baby boys grow up. He needs to take up for himself and you and tell her to simply stay out of it, whatever it may be.
2007-05-06 00:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i purposely keep my hunni away from my inlaws cause he has a new family (me).
they always put things in his head and i dont like that.
the less they see of him the better.
2007-05-06 00:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋