I have a friend that is married and has been emotionally cheating on her husband. And its been in the work place. And we are christians. I have warned her numerous times that she is making a mistake. She wouldnt listen. So I told my boss to keep his eyes open. Because this was interferring with work. Should I have kept my mouth shut or did i do the right thing?
2007-05-05 21:47:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I tried to give the short version. The husband and wife, and "boyfriend" all work there and they were bring their problems on to the floor. We have a good boss and can keep the girl out of trouble but the guys work for someone else. This is where it gets complicated. oh well. I know I lost a friend, and I know I went to far. But she was like family. I am awfully young to know what a mother of a grown adult feels like. It just grieves me so bad.
2007-05-05 22:06:40 · update #1
Daisy as a Christian you already did what was expected of you by confronting your friend with the challenge of the truth and nothing more is expected of you by God, so yes you are going a little too far and coming close to persecuting this person, as scripture tells us, now that you have told her you must now wipe the dust from your sandals and move on.
If you do not there is the danger that resentment will enter here and you may not be able to control it.
2007-05-05 21:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you went too far. She's an adult after all, and even if you did it with the best intent you can't make decisions for other people. Besides, I'm not sure what you boss would be able to do about the situation. He or she doesn't have the authority to keep your friend from cheating, emotionally or otherwise.
2007-05-06 04:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it's really your business, to be honest. What she does is her business, she's a grown woman and if she feels the need to cheat on her husband (how do you do it emotionally - by flirting? - because that isn't actually cheating) then it's up to her. I'm sorry to say that if this gets out that you told your boss to keep an eye on her, she will no longer be your friend.
2007-05-06 04:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm that is a hard predicament and I would say that in some way you did do the right thing, because it will interfere with her work and in a way you are not only looking out for the work but her and her maintaining her job. Though if she is emotionally cheating there may be something lacking at home and I would encourage her to talk to her husband about whatever it is that is making her seek out another man to gain that emotion from and go to couples couselling.
2007-05-06 04:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sunfire 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Messing with someones job is a VERY slippery slope to be on. Now you have opened her up to be the subject of gossip and ridicule in the workplace, if that is she isn't fired.
Personally I think yes, you did go to far. If you believe she is doing something wrong as a Christian, the Bible has guidelines on how it should be handled.
Also, perhaps you should take the log out of your eye before you go poking around for the mote in hers.
2007-05-06 04:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you betrayed your friend by telling your boss. You did the right thing by talking to your friend about her behavior. Next time make sure you tell the person what the possible consquences could be of their actions. Pray for her.
2007-05-06 04:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by fbarkon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should've stayed completely out of it. It isn't your job to make sure she's living the Christian life. Her relationship with God is not a threesome. It's between her and God only. This may in turn bite you in the rear, if her boss mentions it to her. The Bible says to work out your OWN salvation with fear and trembling.
2007-05-06 04:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
WHAT???? IF U TRULY WERE A TRUE CHRISTIAN U WOULD HAVE LEFT IT TO GOD AND NOT QUESTIONED! DEFINATELY WOULDNT HAVE TOOK IT UPON UR SELF TO PLAY THE SAINT! YOUR LARGE NOSE, BELONGS ON UR FACE, NOT IN SOMEONES BUSINESS! REGUARDLESS OF THEIR SINS! U ARE NOT HOLIER THAN THOU AND NEVER WILL BE! JUDGE NOT LESS WE BE JUDGED.
2007-05-06 05:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by momzrckz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing by her behavior she isn't going to be your friend for much longer. or you are not going to be hers anyway I should say. You did the right thing. One for work reasons and two she needs to be held accountable for her un-Christ like actions
2007-05-06 04:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by † H20andspirit 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't interfere with people's lives. emotionally cheating is nothing, and none of your buisness.
2007-05-06 04:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Geisha VT poser 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋