my brother is 23 and he lives away from home. since he's been gone he has made a whole bunch of new friends who i like to describe as the 'wrong crowd'. don't get me wrong, they are lovely people, when they are sober. they drink wayyyy too much, and way too often, they're into recreational drugs (which i assumed was just pot) and they are just simply very dependant on alcohol and probably drugs to have a good time.
my brother seems to really love his new lifestyle. i was starting to accept that my brother is a piss head when last night i found out he's getting into more serious drugs like cocaine. this has completely thrown me off. i don't know what to say to him or if i should even get involved. i'm his little sister i don't feel like i have the right to tell him what to do, but it's just so awful to see my brother do this. especially me because i don't drink and i stay away from all drugs (i'm 20 by the way) and i just can't watch my brother get addicted to this trash.
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2007-05-05 20:51:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if i confront him on this, he won't deny it he will claim that it's just a bit of fun and it's nothing. that's the worst reaction because basically everything i say will go out the other ear.
i know he cares a lot about me and he would hate to see me doing what he does, so why can't he see that what he does influences me too? if i had a weaker personality i would probably think it's ok to do the trash he does.
so my question is, how do i deal with this. i want him to stop doing all this crap, and i'm wondering i should involve my parents. i'm not one to dob on my brother but this is actually a serious issue. if he keeps prgressing with stronger drugs who knows where he could end up, and with what damage.
any advice is greatly appreciated. thanks
2007-05-05 20:57:49 · update #1
I would speak to your family. You can't do this alone but you need to do something. Situations like this need to be addressed before they get way out of control. Your brother is young and when I was his age I went through something similar, but I had a family member who didn't give up on me and I now have an amazing life. Keep loving him and never give up.
hope this helps:)
2007-05-05 21:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by raven 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer how "common" it is, but as far as advising your brother, yes you can talk to him about his current choice of lifestyles, but ultimately there isn't much you can do for him. He is an adult, he makes his own choices right or wrong. If you know anyone who is older than he is who maybe has had some experience with this sort of thing, someone your brother would trust and whose opinion he values, by all means have that person talk to him. It might do some good, but above all don't put him down for his choice, let him know you are concerned and are worried that things could get out of hand and then try to be there for him, but if the worst happens, don't let him drag you down with him. Don't want to scare you but one of you has to face reality and he isn't. I hope he sees the light and you are right to be concerned. I'll keep you both in my thoughts.
2007-05-06 04:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by Livian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look, drugs are drugs. period. if you think he's getting in to deep, tell your parents but, make sure you have proof or it could turn against you. you're his little sister. if you can't or won't tell him he's screwing up, who will? you're right. it's awful having to watch this and even worse if you watch and don't say something. he may be 23 but, he's still your bro and he's still young.don't you think your folks would want to know if something were going on with him? you could confront him and tell him that if he chooses this life then you will no longer be a part of his but, if you can't go through with that, don't say it. i hope all works out for the best.
2007-05-06 09:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to act on this as soon as possible. your brother can get crazy or worst, die because of this... this happened to my sister, too, 5 years ago.. i think you need to talk to your parents about it and ask for help.. well, you need to talk to a doctor and get a professional help... you cannot do this alone... you need help from your family... goodluck!
2007-05-06 04:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋