anyone with family members suffering from false memories?

Question

My son has accused me of molesting him as a child. My daughter says that I killed small animals in the backyard. Until a few months ago, nothing like this had ever been said, until they were influenced by another person who believes she was the victim of ritual abuse. My children are 21 and 19. we had a happy family, and my oldest son who is 24 has no idea where this came from either, and feels that this is a results of outside influence.
this is beyond horrific. My children have seen therapists, as far as I know, and no charges have been filed. I honestly fear for the safety of my kids, who are living with this person who influenced them (not the therapist, who is legit).
I hope no one has had this experience, but if you have has anything helped?
I am seeing a therapist and no, she does not think I fit the profile of a molester.
no, I did not abuse my ,unless you count eating your veges, and cleaning your room. does anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

Seriously, as a mom, I feel for you.

Recalling how I felt when my own children's buried memories emerged in their teen years - it was so heartbreaking. Realizing that I never knew this damage was happening to them tore me in two. Separately my two recounted their stories to me, but piecing their two memories with my own, the trouble was that it only verified the abuse for all three of us from our relative.
From a former neighbor I learned that another former neighbor is sitting in prison for what he did to their girl - a playmate of my own daughter who was now recounting her own memories of this man.
My daughter's damage caused serious, long lasting mental disorder from the abuse she only spoke one sentence about in those early years - and I could never figure it out.

I honestly don't know what to say to you - but is must pain you terribly. Do continue seeing your own therapist. She will be the best person to help you through this.

I will say this - look at the damage first (if there truly is any) and look for the memories second.

Answer 2

there are people and therapists out there that will try to do things like that. brain wash i guess. when i was in highschool they decided that i had been molested as a child and at first i started to believe then but then my mom niped that in the bud and i realized that they were trying to do that, the only thing that i can suggest is maybe hire a lawyer to help just in case. maybe see if the children will do some family therapy with your therapist. why does this person want to convice them that they were molested and abused by you? is this a cult that you might need to research into? i wish i could be more help and my heart goes out to you and your children for theyre confusion. i hope this helps a little

Answer 3

i feel very bad for what is happening to you and your family. i believe theft my family has issues with this, but it is hard to know for sure because my family has the (there is nothing wrong with our family) syndrome. i can tell you what is going on with me , it is a lot, and hopefully it can help. i am currently 32. i had a lot of problems growing up. i was emotionally, mentally, and physically abused. i sank into deep depressions and bipolar disease.i have a problem falling to sleep and feeling sluggish and slow. i hated my life. when i had my so at age 19, a single parent, i soon realized there was something wrong with most of my family.but most had no idea that any thing other than normal ever happened.i became closer to my mother as time went on and found several discrepencies in our talking about the past. this was also with my siblings, grand parents etc. no one else believes what i say about it. my son was the reason i discovered this. he has several emotional handicaps , solving his problems caused me to carefully study my family one of the doctors says that most people that have fake memories get them through t.v.,dreaming, and seeing things happen to others. the doctors do not know what to do for treatment as of yet, but maybe you will have better luck then me.

Answer 4

The root source of all famdamily dis-functions, dis-orders, dis-eases, and dis-comforts is law: legalism. It is natural and spiritual abuse: awful lawful. It makes you feel "wretched": Romans 7. It depresses (oppresses) people: Acts 10.

Law is "both good and evil", which ends badly.
Grace is good only, which therefore ends good.

The solution is flush law as "dung" for "grace is sufficient".

There is no dis-comfort in "the God of all comfort".
There is no awful lawful in "the God of all grace".
There is no darkness in "that God is light" only.

The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.