Years ago I got engaged and was far along in the wedding planning, including purchase of a beautiful dress, when the prospective groom and I broke up. The dress languished in a closet for years, until I passed it down to my niece for whenever her wedding day should arrive. I recently became engaged to a wonderful guy, and purchased another, equally beautiful but less formal, dress for our wedding. However, I was talked by the niece into "just trying on" the old dress... and it looks better now than it ever did! Now I'm torn. The old dress is gorgeous but I'm afraid it's too "young" for me (I'll be 36 on my wedding day), and possibly too formal for a lakeside garden wedding (it has a cathedral train). The new dress is much simpler with no train, just as lovely, and probably better suited for dancing at the reception (the train on the old dress doesn't bustle well). Would it be suitable to wear one for the ceremony & the other for the reception, or should I just pick one?
2007-05-05 19:30:18 · 14 answers · asked by holly j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since your ceremony is going to be a lakeside garden wedding, the dress with the cathedral train is too formal for such a setting. It also sounds like the second dress would be more age appropriate, and also better suited for dancing at the reception.
2007-05-09 15:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying is: "You can't go back". Wear the new wedding dress. The old wedding dress is from a relationship that did not pan out, and you broke up with your fiance. So my advice is start fresh. Wear the new dress, put the old dress on ebay and sell it for half price. Good Luck on your wedding day.
2007-05-06 11:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to take this old baggage into a new relationship? Also, have you considered the ramifications of a cathedral train that doesn't bustle well on possibly muddy lakeside ground? I would wear the new dress for the new relationship and forget both the old ones.
2007-05-05 19:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pick the latter dress, that's grown with you. Keep the initial dress, as some of your dreams, and modify it to fit a special occasioin with your newly betrothed. Don't try to mix the two.
Either way. you will be happy if you keep the memories of the first dress full of dreams yet to become fulfilled, and the second dress, a realizatiion of dreams meet reality.
Congratulations, I am almost there myself with Giovanni,he is from Milan and very emotioinal. His friend was Versace, and he sees my son as a world leader or nothing. I cannor escape Giovanni as he breaks the pipes in my own house on the river, and he follows me everplace. God willing, I will marry this Italian, (Milan) and provide for my family and future.
God help us, and especially my son.
2007-05-05 19:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could change between the ceremony and the reception. But there is another possible issue here: how will your husband-to-be feel about you wearing a wedding gown you purchased for marrying another man?
2007-05-05 21:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your STB Hubby and how he feels about you wearing the dress you chose to wed another man....Stick to the new dress and let it go, if you really like it that much, have some photos of just yourself taken in it.
2007-05-05 19:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by sweetcheripie25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could wear the more formal one for the ceremony & change into the less formal one after photos but before the reception :o)
2007-05-05 19:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You certainly could do that, but it would leave you with one more problem - which to have the photos taken in!
The other thing is does the first dress hold memories you don't want on your wedding day?
2007-05-05 19:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
where both the more formal for the ceremony and change for the other one you will still have pictures in both but do not tell your future hubby that it was from a past engagemnt might cause a rift b4 the ceremony and you wont get to wear either
2007-05-05 19:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by ady 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-05-09 11:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by tianac23@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋