My brother is married with 3 kids and another on the way. My mum is ALWAYS complaining about them (and dad) saying they are parenting wrong and cooking wrong and cleaning wrong. They are mvoing this week and all their stuff is ni our garage atm and toby (my bro) is bringing more over tonight, so i thoguth it would be nice if we asked them over for dinner. I asked mum at 3pm what she thought n she went crazy!! She NEVER wants tem to come for dinner and comlains they use me too much for babysitting! (i love babysitting for them) whats her problem
2007-05-05 19:02:27 · 10 answers · asked by ce_ben1 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My parents NEVER drink and they dont complain about me to them becasue they dont SEE THEM
2007-05-05 19:09:07 · update #1
try to stay on both sides. why she complains, you could never understand. it could be a million reason. but you are doing the right thing helping your brother.
2007-05-05 20:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want you to become influenced by your brother. Apparently, he must have made some mistakes with parenting and such. Hey, nobody's perfect, and as long as they can clean and cook, hey, no house problems, right? But if his kids cry a lot and throw constant temper tantrums, then he needs some parenting skills. I met the perfect parents before, they are Jehovah's Witnesses, and their daughter never cries or throws temper tantrums, ever. She has the maturity of an 8 year old and she's only 3. Anyway, no offense, but your mother is too uptight. What's the expression, "No Son Of Mine"? Hey, I don't really know the truth to as why your mom doesn't want your older brother, her own son, setting foot in her household. I don't have anything else to say, so I'm sorry if this doesn't satisfy your curiosity.
2007-05-05 19:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mum sounds like she is not a happy person in general. Maybe there's something else in her life that is the root cause of the problem. For some reason, her unhappiness is coming out as complaints about your brother and his family, when really she's just unhappy about her life in general. It would have been nice to ask them over for dinner, in fact that would have been a wonderful, kind thing to do. You sound like a wonderful sister. Give your mum a hug and tell her you love her. That's about all you can do for her now. She needs to talk to a therapist.
2007-05-05 21:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely yur brother chose his own path when he became old enough and did not do as the parents thought he should.
You parents seem to think they know what is best for all and if peop0le do not do what they think is proper then they shun the.
You are still at home so be careful because when it is your time to leave itmight just be that they will turn aghainst you as well.
Not uncommon and i have seenit many times. I have you talked to your brother about this. It is good to know both sides of any problem.
2007-05-05 19:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom just feels that she failed as a mother everytime she sees your brother (my guess). From what i hear, moms normally have so much dreams and goals set for their first child, she probably did for your brother as well. But however he turned out did not correlate with her wishes and now she's frustrated, but I think your mom and brother would be more freed and be able to express their love once she accepts that he is happy the way he is. Also your brother acknowledging your mom being a good mom/ giving her best to raise him might make things better.
At least they have someone like you. sorry to hear that you are stuck in the middle..
2007-05-05 19:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are just hard to understand but I think your mum thinks that some parenting skills of your brother is wrong beacuse your brother might be raising his kids differently than the way your mum did... maybe she thinks that her skills are more right than your brother's...
2007-05-05 19:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by Brent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mother, she is the only one who knows WHY she does anything.
2007-05-05 19:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you ever wonder if she complains to them about you?
2007-05-05 19:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your parents drink to much tomorrow they will love him again..you know im right........
2007-05-05 19:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems tht she deslikes him..or his family....
thats not nice
2007-05-05 19:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋