ok, so this guy said that he liked me. i got out of a long relationship, where the guy was a jerk a couple months ago. im over him now but i really liked someone telling me they liked me. im not sure if i like the guy that told me he liked me. we have been talking non-stop since and now im beginning to think i dont like him. we were friends before. how do i keep the friendship and gently let him know that i dont feel the same way?
2007-05-05 17:00:53 · 21 answers · asked by :) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him down easy. I've been in the same circumstances as you. You like that this guy is attracted to you and is giving you attention that you obviously like, but you're not attracted to him. So be honest with him. Tell him that you're very flattered that he likes you but that you don't want to risk the friendship with dating. That you value his friendship too much to try to date him.
Just make sure that you're not holding yourself back for the actions of your ex. Not every guy out there is your ex. There's no reason to blame a new guy for the regrets or the issues you had with the last guy. If you're constantly comparing guys to your ex, and assuming that this new guy will treat you wrong or make the same mistakes as your ex than you're not going to have a good relationship.
2007-05-05 17:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dawnwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not ready for any type of relationship beyond friends right now. Tell him you have a lot to get over from your old relationship and you don't want to rush into anything. Say that you really appreciate his friendship, and really make it clear you're just not ready. If he really likes you and respects you, then he'll understand and his feelings won't be crushed.
2007-05-06 00:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by xila31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make him feel guilty about going out with you. I heard from many people it works and the guy won't have any ill intentions toward you in fact it would be opposite. Try to give hints that you really value the friendship or you always thought of him as a brother.
2007-05-06 00:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, i dont agree with the above answers.
dont "just say it" because then you WILL hurt him, and it WILL ruin the friendship.
i know this is mean, but just start flirting with other guys, or go on some dates. he'll catch on. if he confronts you about it, tell him your not ready to get into a relationship yet, or tell him you dont know how you feel.
make it very clear to him that you value his friendship and need it right now. maybe tell him a secret to show this.
good luck!
2007-05-06 00:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by xo.mel.xo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to do that. Believe me, I've had to before. What I did was I sat him down away from everyone else, so I wouldn't embarass him and said, "Hey, listen. You are a great friend of mine and I really appreciate that. But I just don't like you the same way you like me. I love being around you and want to stay friends, but that's all really." We ended up being good friends in the end. It was like he had never told me he liked me.
2007-05-06 00:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue talking to him, but dont let the friendship go anywhere else. if you are mistaken about your true feelings, and then tell him you dont like him, then you will be left with nothing. if he tries to advance the relationship, tell him you wouldnt want to ruin you friendship and that you will see where it is going, because you really do in fact, like him as a friend.
2007-05-06 00:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him straight!
if u try to tell him in a indirect way or wadeva, he may think that he still has chances and maybe at the end both od u suffer. And you also cant keep your friendship with him like now! if he is mature and really like u , he shld understand!
hahaz
hope can help u in some way!
thats juz my opinion! :)
2007-05-06 00:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by bRoken_dReaMz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to tell him would be, to just well, tell him. But don't go dancing around it, you have to tell him straight up. If he honestly does like you, he might stop being friends with you for a while. If he does, don't go and try to make amends. That will just confuse him. If he doesn't, you'll know pretty fast.
2007-05-06 00:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you can do it in alot of ways. it all depends on the way he is. if you have the type of friendship that you tell eachother everything. then take him to the side, and tell him that you just want to be his friend but if anything happens between you then it will happen. me and my girlfriend didnt get along at the beginning and she told me that she just wanted to be my friend and that she would get to know me enough to maybe give me a chance. but look at us now. lol!
2007-05-06 00:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by paintfury 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you need some time. you just got out of a relationship and really don't want to get in another one right now. besides, even if you did like him you wouldn't want him to be the re-bound. tell you still want to be friends, but that you're just not ready for anything more than that.
2007-05-06 00:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by Green-Eyed Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋