i wanted to go to my boyfriend`s tonight because it`s prom night& all my friends are there, but i`m in 9th grade so, yea i`m not. . well, i let my b/f`s dad talk to mine& dad said no. . so i was like crap - whatever& then i got to thinkin`, dad let my sister go to her friends yesterday& she came up today& i`m always home alone cause she`s always at her friends house& i`m always bored. . so i went& said daddy, my sister went to her friends all weekend last weekend& the time before& he just said Tiffany don`t you start with that crap& started yellin` at me ?
idk if it`s a trust issue, if he`s too overprotective, or is he likes my sister better ?
please help.
2007-05-05 16:48:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i`m the oldest.
2007-05-05 17:01:47 · update #1
i wasn`t goin` to the after prom party, i was just goin` to his house because his brother was at the prom& his parents were gonna stay up all night anyways. . my b/f is in the same grade as me. i`m actually a couple months older than him& my dad trusts him. . believe me. me& my b/f have been together for 9& a half months& he`s gained his trust with my parents. .
2007-05-05 17:06:58 · update #2
Oh sweetie, your daddy doesn't like your sister better than you. And I'm sure he trusts you. But something your boyfriend's dad told him made him decide that you shouldn't go to this party. Maybe there are a lot of older kids there and he doesn't trust THEM.
2007-05-05 17:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Alice K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if your sister is older or younger, but if she is older, then that is why she can go out but you can't. Also, if your boyfriend is going to prom, then that means he's at least two years older than you. There is that whole stigma about what teenagers do after prom, something that leads to pregnancy. I would bet that your father does not feel comfortable with you going to a prom party with a bunch of older kids when he knows that. (And every parent knows, they were teenagers once, too.) Maybe it isn't that he doesn't trust you, but he doesn't trust your boyfriend.
2007-05-06 00:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by xila31 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if your sister is older, it's just an age thing. if your sister didn't get to do it when she was in 9th grade, just because she gets to do it NOW, doesn't mean you get to do it now also. trust me, i am youngest, and have felt that "not being treated fair" thing all the time. the older i got, the more i realized that parents are just trying to do their best and protect you. i know "protecting" you from hanging out with the bf on prom night sounds silly, but i am sure your father has his reasons. i doubt he likes your sister better. if you guys love each other, you should sit down with him, and just have a heart to heart, and make sure there is no arguing. maybe you can come to a compermise.
2007-05-05 23:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How much older is your sister? Sometimes us parents make mistakes with the older one and decide to not make the same mistakes with the younger one. Talk to your dad and ask him what you need to do to gain his trust to be able to do the things you'd like to do. You might have to compromise, but communication usually can help a lot. He's not doing it to be mean, he's doing it cuz he does love you. Being a parent is sometimes the toughest job in the world, but we picked it, so we gotta do it. Talk to him; you can work it out so you both feel good / better about things.
2007-05-05 23:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
whenever i was in thee 9th grade my dad was like that too. i personally believe that its b/c 9th grade is a new life. we have bars on our windows cuz he thought i would sneak out. i never ever ever got to do anything in the 9th. well im sophomore now, and i get to do a lot more. i can go w/ friends but i have to be in 15 mins before 10. dont give your daddy a reason not to trust you and the next year will be a lot better. thats what i did. and im sure your daddy just isnt ready for you to be grown yet.
2007-05-05 23:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by marleeL 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your entire situation,but from what you have written I think maybe he is just trying to protect you.Is your sister older?Maybe he thinks she can do things and not you b/c of your age.Maybe he is trying to prevent you from making a possible bad decision.Show him how you are mature and responsible and eventually he should give you more privileges but it will take time.good luck!
2007-05-05 23:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by mommyof2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when dad says no, ask mom.
^^ i have a shirt that says that!
you answered my question and im gonna help you
you said i was too young, well trust me im not, its not that im uncomfortable around my bf its that idk if i trust him anymore. but anways
my dad does that all the time too. you just got to forgive and forget.
why not invite your bf over to your house?
2007-05-06 16:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kids B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your sister older then you?
2007-05-05 23:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by Izzy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you the youngest? the youngest always get overprotected.
2007-05-05 23:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would have a hunger strike. it works for me, yea
2007-05-05 23:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sylvia K 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋