I am so tired of being hurt by men that maybe I should go with a woman. They know how to treat a woman. I am not a cold person and I can't play games if I care for someone. Its all or nothing. I love sex and just doing anything with the one I love. I am not demanding and I know i'm good. Sexy and dingy at times. What is wrong?
2007-05-05 16:36:40 · 9 answers · asked by ENCHANTRESS ROSE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My Attending in OBGYN, who is also a Sex therapist often says that you need four things for a good relationship. They are : Time, Talk, Trust, and Touch.
From the way you go on about "I love sex and I'm tired of being hurt." I think you have no problems with the "touch" and most likely you have met men who want only that one aspect of the relationship or perhaps you subconsiously choose men of that disposition.
I suggest you start seeking MEN or WOMEN, who will mutually share a considerable amount of TIME to be with you. Someone who will LISTEN when you TALK, and likewise someone you listen to when they TALK. Someone who can be mutually TRUSTed with a few close secrets (ie Personal feelings) and then when you are both ready, take it to the next level with the TOUCH.
A good relationship need these 4 things, and not one of them should be dominated or monopolized by the other.
Good luck to you Lisa!
2007-05-05 17:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by [deleted] 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
No...I don't think that you should do that unless you really want to. Its just that like the rest of us, youve been picking sour apples. Sit down and write out a list of everything that you want your man to be. Make it realistic. Then when you start dating, stick to that list, and don't let them see it. Cause then they may try and be that person and it won't be real. Then take your time getting to know some one before you start sleeping with them. And just take it slow. Trust me I like sex a lot to, and I have jumped in sexual relationships b4 only to get burnt. So, let sex be the last thing you think about when you get into a relationship. Find out where they stand and what values they have. Things that are important in a relationship, and then take it from there.
2007-05-05 23:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you but you haven't found the right person for you yet,don't jump to the conclusion of becoming a lesbian,because this is really not necessary!
2007-05-05 23:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have been involved with bums isn't reason to give them up. Consider what kind of men you have been choosin' cuz if you have been choosin' the wrong men, you will most likely choose the wrong women.
2007-05-05 23:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Girly-Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men suck. We all know it. Theres no harm in testing the waters on the other side. Keep an open mind, You could be surprised.
2007-05-05 23:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by Pookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. You'll heal and then you can make logical choices. Getting mistreated is not what makes someone a lesbian.
2007-05-05 23:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid..you can't just decide to become a lesbian because youll be a fake lesbian..people who are homosexual are born that way.They have those feelings since they first start becoming attracted to other people.
2007-05-05 23:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by Synthetic Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
please don't i'll be good to you, wait wait wait, i'm a lesbian trapped in a males body go lesbian and i'll still treat you the same, later!
2007-05-05 23:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by SLIM 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing is wrong. And u dont become a lespian. U like girls, SO WAT! people just lable u for their own happiness. dumb, but true
2007-05-05 23:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋