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Hi, Im 22 years old, married, and been having feelings I just cant shake. Started a couple months ago when all I would do is cry out of no where I wouldnt want to go anywhere. I went to the doctor was was told I had major depression. I was put on some pills and they helped. Then something happened in which I can not go into detail, but I stopped talking the pills and was fine. Then the reason I was happy went away and can no longer come back. Since then its been getting worse. I feel as if I am invisible. Like i just want to get in the car and drive and no one would notice. I have a 2 year old little girl and she is my main reason for staying. I know she needs me but I cant get out of this rut that I am in to give her the attention she needs. I feel so alone. I have told my husband this and he of course says you're not alone and not invisible, but I still feel this way. What do I do?

Ok it wasnt the pills that made me feel better. It was a person. like I said I cant get into it. And I dont believe in therapists. All they do is ask you questions that if you had the answers to you wouldn't be there in the first place.

OK KK Im not suicidal. I just want to run away. Maybe I explained it wrong. My husband isn't supportive. I feel as though he is mad at me most of the time. I know what would help but I cant do it. I need a different alternative. Meds dont help and neither would some guy with a pen and papper asking me stupid questions. Please dont tell me to go talk to a therapist.

Answer 1

Talking to someone can help, but, I agree too many therpists ask stupid questions like you describe. The person or event that made you feel better is a key here, I'm guessing it was an affair. Feel free to contact me and I promise not to ask dumb questions.

http://www.onlinelifecoach.org
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Answer 2

You have depression and you don't know how to deal with it just like me. You want an answer but you need to keep trying and don't give up there is not just one answer for depression. You should talk to your counselor and you ask see if you can get anti-depressants.

There are many different ways of dealing with depression

First lets look at the good treatment

1.) Family talk to them and have them support you

2.) Friends talk to them and have them support you

3.) Go to counseling and talk them and have them help you

4.) get enough exercise

5.) Eat the right kinds of food

6.) write down your feelings in a journal

7.) Last you should think about taking anti-depressant's

all that can help you

Now this is what you MUST NOT do. I know I've tried this to deal with depression.

1.) Start smoking

2.) Start drinking

3.) Isolate yourself from friends and family

4.) Aovid going to counseling

5.) Taking drugs like weed or other bad drugs

6.) Run away yes you said you want to do that but that won't solve your depression.

7.) Stop talking to everyone about your depression like friends/family or your counselor that never helps.

Last you should never think you can handle your depression alone and you should NEVER think that you have your depression all firgured out because you don't it's get a lot of things that go into it that you need to work on.

Good luck and I hope you get the help you need. Don't worry I'm in the same boat I'm depressed but I try to do things like I said to make myself feel better. Good luck.

Answer 3

Go back to the doctor, having depression is not your fault it usually is a mixture of what is happening in your life and a chemical imbalance.He will give you some pills and combine it with some counselling.Good Luck! you sound like you have a supportive husband so you are already halfway there

Answer 4

Your little girl needs a mommy that is there for her. Often children mirror their parent's moods. She is learning so much while she is 2, she needs for you to be healthy, so she can be healthy, too.

Have you ever considered being a part of a group of women, dealing with similar issues, in a confidential closed group, under the guidance of a counselor, or in a church? Hearing others' stories and issues can get you to think about yourself and what might work for you toward healing and getting your life back. This is not a mere gripe session, but a working together toward healing and learning new coping skills.

Very likely your husband would support your getting out of the house and being with a group like this.

To connect with such a group - call around to the larger churches in your area and ask about support groups or group counseling.
OR
Call mental health clinics or counseling centers and let them know this is your interest.
In the state where I live my health insurance's mental health program runs such groups.

Your little girl needs her mommy, and needs her to be well.

Answer 5

Try doing things even if you don't feel like it, such as, exercising, working on a hobby, hanging out with people, or just getting chores done. Sometimes you have to "do something" in order to feel like doing something. Once you accomplish a task, you might feel better and then you'll want to do something else. It is also very helpful to pray. You may have to see your doctor again, and possibly get back on the meds. Don't let the problem get out of hand.

Answer 6

i have never experiened depression b4 but my advice is this. dont stay bcuz u feel u need 2 stay 2 b a mother. stay bcuz what else r u going to do? if u leave, u r going to go someplace that u might know a couple ppl, but then u r gonna feel even more invisible. so invisible there could b thoughts on suicide. dont stay bcuz u need to. stay bcuz of ur very own life. and im sry if this doesnt help, but being only a kid myself, i have nothin else 2 offer ya.
dont stay 2 simply b a wife and b a mother. stay bcuz what else is there?
nothing good.
...but then again, dont start thinking that the world is a dark place...

Answer 7

go see a therapist..sometimes i feel that way too but i also have a 2 year old little boy and he's the reason im staying here. Also look towards God. I'm barely going to church but i found it to be very good. God has helped me in many ways and im enjoying my life alot more now...i havent recently been going but i do pray to him and i know sometimes he answered my prayers..nothing like (oh i want lots of money) but just like i want happiness and i have been getting it. I'm sure if you have faith ..you'll be happy again without pills. your little girl needs you as you said..dont leave her behind!!

Answer 8

National Suicide Hotline Launched

From SAMSHA News Release
1-800-273-TALK
The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services' Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) has launched a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK.

The national hotline is part of the National Suicide Prevention Initiative (NSPI)—a collaborative effort led by SAMHSA that incorporates the best practices and research findings in suicide prevention and intervention with the goal of reducing the incidence of suicide nationwide.

In addition to the national hotline, a new website is being launched at suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Answer 9

Call with any problem, anytime:
Girls and Boys Town National Hotline
Phone: [phone]
Email: [e-mail]

Answer 10

get back on the meds. Your little girl needs you and so does your husband. I have been in the same type of situation. They are hard, but they will always get better. Hang in there, and don't give up.