She seems to find something wrong with every guy. She has dated some really nice guys, but I know she is young. I just hope she is not setting a pattern for herself for life.
2007-05-05 14:31:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There isn't really a question but I can understand your concern. This thing will end soon, at that age most girls just feel a need for a guy with them as a companion, dispite the differences. Its only after they start dating that the girl will find a problem and will terminate the relation right away.
I'm actually just 16, but I'm well aware of this type of situation, a cousin of mine used to do the very same thing. After she went into college, all the work and random problems left her with a single guy, barely any friends to go out with every week. That one guy became her only contact, and now they're serious and completely "in love." Its really just a matter of time before she meets someone like that to settle with. It isn't a problem at all, its insanely normal for this generation of kids.
She definately WILL stop this pattern! After all, a family is all you have in the end to fall back on, not friends. She'll want to settle down.
I hope that answers any possible questions, and I wish you good luck.
2007-05-05 14:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Steven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she finds something wrong with them, then you should respect that. Just because they seemed nice to you doesn't mean that they really were. You wouldn't want your daughter to "settle" just for the sake of having a boyfriend, would you? And what's wrong with dating a number of guys? What's the rush to find one in particular? Your daughter is young and should be encouraged to see what kinds of guys are out there and to find the special one who is just right for her.
2007-05-05 14:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this could be a lot of things. She might not want to go through any form of fights or arguements that would allow growth and understanding. It might be she thinks there is a Mr. Perfect around here somewhere? There's not... just let her know to have limits but don't set the bar so high that no one will be able to get there.
2007-05-05 14:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Deanna M9903 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely you wouldn't want her to settle for someone just to prove to you she is stable?
I'm sure she knows what she wants and doesn't want and probably has good reason for each guy she dumped.
Try talking to her and express your concerns - just be careful not to come across like you are accusing her of something wrong. Listen to what she has to say an offer her some motherly advice about taking her time and not jumping into anything too fast.
2007-05-05 14:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats just like me. im 18 and i have been dating guys since i was about 13. personally to me, the more guys i date (with no sex and stuff) the more i learn about guys and learn what type of person i am so then in the long run when i find "Mr. right" i will know right off the bat. dont worry, she is just using that "dating a lot of guys'' technique to learn what type of guy she really wants. good luck!!
2007-05-05 14:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by futureoncologist07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a commitment-phobe. I'd say she is either:
a) afraid of getting hurt
b) just not so into these guys
c) incredibly confident
or
d) something that she has seen of experienced in her life has made her unable to have a meaningful relationship (sometimes divorce, rape, abuse, seeing unhappy relationships, etc. can really affect a person's ability to have lasting relationships)
Unless you become really, really worried about it, I would just go ahead and be glad that you don't have a love sick, heartbroken, obssessive daughter who lets men walk all over her and feels like she can't live without a guy.
Like my mom got stuck with, lol. :)
2007-05-05 14:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still a teenager. Maybe she can't stand any flaws in the guy she's dating (high standards)?
I think it's normal though. If it's really serious, I think you should talk to her about the issue or ask her why she broke up with her boyfriends? What was wrong with them that she broke up with them?
She will grow up and change. Don't worry.
2007-05-05 14:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be concerned if I were you as well. Maybe breaking up gives her the sence of power? You might want to carefully ask her that. Don't insist she answers your question. But who knows, maybe she realizes she's not all that attracted to them, that's why she breaks up with them.
2007-05-05 14:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by Everybody's Favorite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was there... the last two years of teen-hood are for finding who you really are, and for a lot of young adults that are still at home 18 is a pretty rebellious age, maybe she is looking for someone you don't approve of...:?
2007-05-05 14:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by christa h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your daughter is really a lesbian and trying to fool people. She thinks that maybe if she keeps changing guys shell find that 1 to change her mind...but it looks like she has yet to do that
2007-05-05 14:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋