ok, im turning 16 in a month, and i've been with my boyfriend for 1 month, 1 week, and 6 days since march 22nd (i have to keep track because he'll forget haha) but, i really really love him - i've known jeff since 7th grade and were at the end of our sophomore year and we really want to be together. i mean we make each other laugh all the time and we always have fun and we've talked about sex and things like that and we're going to wait until its right, but we feel comfortable enough to tell each other and know that this is the person we want to give our virginity to and things like that.
ok, jeff has had a pretty rough life because of his older brothers making stupid decisions in their life and taking the wrong "path". his family is sort of a mess because for 2 years in jeff's life his world seemed to crash down on him. his parents got divorced, someone in his family died, his brother went to the "big house" and he just didnt care anymore ------ h/o i'll put in more detail
2007-05-05 13:49:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but, he didnt really care and didn't go to school for a while, and now he's trying to boost his grades and everything. but i went over to his house ONE time and my dad came and picked me up and jeff's house is alittle dirty because his family also lived in poverty for a while and lived off foodstamps and his mom is REALLY skinny...not to be mean, but alittle tweaker skinny??
and so my mom and dad make this giant decision that its not safe over there for me. "its not a stable environment".
2ndly they dont trust him or me alone together, which is stupid. i mean me and jeff arent dumb. jeff tells me all the time, yeah i want to have sex with you but its not going to kill me to wait for you. for you, i'll do anything. he said that he'll protect me and care for me and my parents think they know EVERYTHING and so now, im not allowed to go over to jeff's ever again. and im pissed off.
im gonna be 16 this year and i have too many dreams to throw away over a guy and jeff always told-
2007-05-05 13:54:36 · update #1
he always told me, that no matter what happens if we ever break up, be strong and go on with your life. it'll hurt if we break up but be strong for me.
anyways my question is, how can i make them see that jeff is a good guy and im not a complete whore? im not gonna throw myself at him like some girls would, so how can i make them see that im the girl they wanted?? the responsible one, who thinks of the right thing, and how can i make them see that me and jeff ARE those average percent of responsible teens out there???
2007-05-05 13:56:47 · update #2
I really thing you are soooooooooooo grown up and mature for your age (being a teenager I mean).
I know that you've known the guy since 7th grade, but to clarify your parents' point of view, your father went to Jeff's house and saw how they live, and their fear of something happening to you is justified, but not to the point that they don't want you and Jeff to hang out together.
To show them that Jeff is a good guy, maybe you can invite him to your house and let him meet your parents so that they get to know him better and trust him. Warning: They may not approve of him, but at least you will show them that he is not the type of guys they think he is, and yes, he comes from a nonstable environment, but many GREAT people (artists, actors, presidents...etc) came from broken houses, but turned out to be success stories when given the chance.
Don't be stubborn when it comes to talking to your parents, because they can stop you from seeing him if you act the wrong way, just listen to their point of view, show them that you know what they are concerned about, and then explain your own point of view, and tell them you've known the boy since the 7th grade. He is honest, caring, and loving. Ask them if they rather see you date any of the horney guys who think of nothing but s*x, s*x, s*x and only s*x. Am sure if you explain yourself to them clearly and show them that you appreciate their fears and you are aware of Jeff's situation, but you know him since long and you trust him, they will soften a bit and will allow you to see him.
You know what, I am really touched by your relationship with Jeff and I applaude for being such a grown up girl even though you are a teenager. I am really happy for you two and wish you and Jeff the best of luck.
2007-05-05 14:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by peachy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just spend time with him around your parents. They will either learn to trust him or they won't. Who knows, they might really start to like him. As for not being able to be alone with him at all, sit down with your mom or dad, and just tell them that you feel that you are responsible and mature enough to know what is right and wrong. Tell them that you are not going to make any stupid decisions. just make sure not to get all fired up... that might make them mad, just have a mature conversation.
2007-05-05 14:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by savywoods 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer in all probability. properly i assume i'm rather like my mom, we've a good number of an identical hobbies. yet I even have particularly lots no longer something in undemanding with my father. My mum and dad are lots extra well-known than me and that they are no longer as emotional or mushy. BQ: Blue eyes and of direction brown hair, umm i assume my father has a matching experience of humour to me in specific cases. My mom likes a good number of an identical video clips, song, etc. as me.
2016-10-04 10:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day you are going to look back on this situation and thank your parents. You need to realize that they have your best interest in mind. Why do you need to go to this boy's house? If you want your parents to trust you and see the good in this boy, why can't he come to your house? So, your parents can supervise and see that you are trustworthy.
2007-05-05 14:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, you are 15 years old. You are a child. You are not an adult. It is your parent's job to protect you and it is not a safe environment at his house, per your own admission about his brothers and his family. The fact that at 15 you are considering sex with this boy and have talked about it, means you are not to be trusted alone with him. You're already considering sleeping with him. Get over it, your parents are right.
2007-05-05 13:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
People pick up alot of baggage as life goes on...What exactly is your question?
2007-05-05 13:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an answer involving the words ANAL, OVERPROTECTIVE, duct tape and, cork. But in better judgement I opted not to state it.
2007-05-05 13:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋