When you have been horribly wronged, how much effort would it take to forgive?
2007-05-05 13:25:57 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thank you all for your lovely answers.
Just to clarify, I have been blessed with the gift of forgiving without ties or conditions. I praise God for that. :)
2007-05-05 14:28:27 · update #1
Dear Diogenes: Have faith brother.... you might be surprised :)
2007-05-05 14:30:22 · update #2
I believe that even Jesus found it hard to forgive when He was on the cross. He never said that He forgave but asked God to forgive. I believe that when we find it difficult to forgive we can pray like Jesus, God forgive through me. When we allow God to forgive through us, we give to God our weaknesses and sinfulness and allow God to truly work through us.
2007-05-05 13:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mary W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive. end donning that burden of mistrust and anger. You as a individual will study and strengthen from forgiving somebody. there is not any longer something stable so which you would be able to hold a grudge. learn shown that persons with grudges have ulcers, headache, insomnia, stress, and a catalogue of different actual illnesses. Forgiving relieve you the load of the grudge and you become extra suited as a individual. Forgiving isn't comparable to forgetting. Forgetting is to faux no longer something occurred and you will be able to't mistake that with forgiving. What accomplished is finished. you may no longer reset and circulate lower back. What forgiving does is get you over that stoop; that rut that keeps you from shifting on. So by skill of forgiving, you empty all the pointless weight and get out of the rut. You remember the rut the rut does no longer circulate away, yet you comprehend which you're far faraway from that rut now and be extra useful arranged in case you should come for the time of yet another lower back.
2016-10-04 10:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
W/out any context at all I give you a rock soliid maybe, depending on the personalities of the parties involved (ie: if you're a habitual doormat than probably not, it's just what you habitually do, or if you're an unfeeling jerk most of the time then most likely yes)
However the context is an equally valid factor here things that may be helpful to think about are will this situation matter in a month/year from now & how easy is it going to be for you to shun or be shunned by this person for the rest of your life.
So what exactly does horribly wronged mean to you?
2007-05-05 13:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mike S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is very hard for some to do. Even Christians have a hard time of it. I have been able, through prayer, to forgive everyone who has wronged me. Forgetting is a whole other matter. I would say courage is a very big part of it. When I pray, I ask God to give me courage and strength to do what needs to be done.
2007-05-05 13:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Chloe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, i would say. Sometimes we feel hard done by when people cut us short. We are big on negative feelings and tend to think not put things in perspective. One thing that helps is to bide your time. Forgiveness is not a quick process, it takes time and it should be the time when you feel its right. Remember, at any stage even we need the forgiveness of others when we do them wrong. Ask God to help you forgive the times when you have done bad things and he will give you the strength to resolve all things peacefully.
2007-05-05 13:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by vertino_aleci 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It definitely can. In today's culture, it is often "better" to get revenge later. "Forgiving" someone can often make you look "weak", in the world's eyes. In some situations, it can take courage. But quite often, it really doesn't. As previous answers have said, it takes humility and a forgiving heart to forgive someone even if they don't ask you. It takes love. The only person you would hold captive by being unforgiving is yourself.
2007-05-05 13:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by eefen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes great character and integrity from within to let it go and let the scars diminish as much as they can. The bitterness after forgiveness is the hold up and tougher to let go of. Especially when your redemption comes back around and only a few see the truth and look back and apologize for their cold shoulder. Then others never apologize for their cold shoulder.
It has to become a choice to walk away from the situation ( stop talking about it) and reflect on it to learn what you can in honesty and humility and make any corrections you can to become better for it. Keep bitterness from you , it is of the devil and not of the Lord.
2007-05-05 13:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Dennis James 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must give all the effort to forgive because it the greatest reason Jesus came to save the world. Release the person so you also release yourself from negative emotion which is obstacle to your improvement. Look at the brighter side of forgiving. See to it that the act be not repeated. moral lesson.
2007-05-05 13:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by wilma m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it takes a lot of courage and strength. But you should trust in the fact that even if the person who wronged you never says they are sorry, you are a better person for forgiving them.
2007-05-05 13:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely it takes courage to forgive. It would be hard for a woman to forgive her rapist, or an abusive boyfriend/husband.
You should go see the new Spiderman movie, too. It's got a lot of this theme in it.
2007-05-05 13:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋