I think its ok to have a simple and meaningful marriage but a huge waist of money down the drain for one celebration ....it will be fun while its going on...but then its over...
Take some of the money and go on a nice vacation together not on a wedding.....I have friends who spend 15 to 20 thousand on weddings...I have one thing to say ....DEBT!!!....
anyone agree?
2007-05-05 13:23:49 · 24 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I completely agree, especially when 41% of first marriages end in divorce, the rate's up to 73% for third marriages.
Honestly I don't think marriage is all it's cracked up to be. But you can blame the same consumer culture that tells our men they need to be manly, and our women they need to be anorexic.
Edit: And for those of you who say "All girls dream of their wedding day." Get a clue. I'm 100% female and I never dreamed of my wedding day, I never planned it, I never thought about how it would be and what I'd be wearing. When you're in love a wedding is inconsequential. My mom and "step-dad" have been together over 20 years without being married, my dad and his girlfriend for 10. You don't need a piece of paper to prove you love someone, you don't need a 5,000 dollar gown or a 10,000 dollar ceremony. You don't need any of it. Don't let yourself fall into that trap.
2007-05-05 13:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mina 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I truly agree wtih you and I am a female. I would rather have a small but nice wedding without all the glitz and spending thousands. A wedding is a celebration of your love and devotion and spending the rest of your life together. It should not be a major money blower. The money saved could be used to start your life together such as a down payment on a home or a trip you both would have a great time enjoying. I can't see spending thousands aon a dress i will only wear once or spending a hundred and up on one plate of food for each person. People put more effort into their wedding then they do there relatiosnhip
2007-05-05 13:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree. The amount of money people spend on weddings is really crazy. I am currently planning my wedding and i keep thinking about how insane it is to spend so much money for a one day celebration. I've cut down on a lot of things because i think it's rediculous. We're not renting a limo (or any vehicle for that matter) because i think its insane to pay hundreds of dollars to ride in a pretty car for a couple blocks. We're getting a family member (an experienced one with a business, though) to do our photography, another family member with a business to do invitations, i'm having the bare minimum of flowers (just bouquets and boutonniers, nothing in the church because churches are nice enough as they are, in my opinion), having a friend be our DJ...i just don't see any point in going all out. I am in love with my man and I am more excited about spending the rest of my life with him than having some big fancy party. Too many people seem to go over the top with weddings and its just rediculous. I never fantasized about my wedding as a child. All that mattered was my dream of spending my life with a wonderful man. The wedding istelf doesn't really matter. And thats how it should be.
2007-05-05 15:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by katskradle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On one hand, Yes; on another, probably, No!
Yes; $15000+ is probably far too much on a wedding.
On the other hand, you have to remember that the father and family [assuming tradition here] has waited over 20 years or so for the 'big day' that his daughter is married.
The whole family has been looking forward to this for many years!
It's certainly worth a decent celebration for them all!
But, if she simply divorces in 2 years or so, then, No, there shouldn't be any big spending for a 2nd attempt, but a proper wedding is in order nevertheless.
One could only expect that under such conditions, the couple should also contribute what is needed for any subsequent wedding.
Specifically, and overall, I do agree that the costs are generally far too high - too much is spent just on the day of the wedding, and money should be put aside for more permanent purposes for, and by, them.
Yes.
2007-05-05 13:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by dr c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think couples should spend what the can afford on the type of celebration that is best suited for them. So for some spending $15,000 or more may be well with in their means, while others it may not be. It really is just a personal choice. We spent $10,000 on our wedding but it was something that was well within our means.
Our wedding wasn't the most elaborate but it was nice and elegant based on what we wanted and could afford. If I had to do it all over again, I would because our wedding reflected how we wanted to celebrate our marriage. There were alot of things that I would have liked to have, but it just wasn't in our budget so we scaled back our guest list and had daytime wedding instead of an evening wedding.
I think that couples definitely should spend within their means and not go into debt. You can have a nice wedding on any budget, but if you have more money to spend and chose to do so, I don't think anything is wrong with that.
2007-05-05 13:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To each his own but, I agree totally. I know a lot of women will talk about it being their dream day and they day where they can be a princess, yada, yada, yada. But I can't see spending that much money on one day. If I had the money to spend I would rather go skiing in Jackson Hole, surfing in Hawaii, or a safari in Africa. I'd take a simple ceremony and a kick a** honeymoon any day. And as for borrowing money for a wedding, finances is one of the leading causes of divorce. You don't want to start a marriage out in debt
2007-05-05 13:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by kgee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. It's ridiculous. And for the record, I am married and we spent a couple of thousand on our wedding, maybe 2 or 3 k max. I got married later in life and I still didn't see the sense in spending all that money.
Incidentally, the most lavish wedding I went to, the couple have been divorced for years.
2007-05-05 13:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree...you shouldn't go broke getting maried..Period.
It would be better money spent to have a small, inexpensive wedding and putting the money that MANY do spend on BIG weddings into a bank and get 5% interest + and use that for the childrens education or for a house. To spend it on a wedding is pointless in my opinion!
2007-05-05 13:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I don't agree. If you can afford to spend that kind of money on a wedding that's your perogative. I would never recommend going into debt to have a lavish reception, but if you can afford go for it. I had a big wedding and I've never once regretted it. I've been married for 13+ years and I don't ever look back and say I wish didn't have the wedding. We had the wedding we could afford and I loved it.
2007-05-05 19:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand it either! My sister spent over twenty thousand on her wedding and she is now seriously in debt. With that kind of money I would rather elope and put a down payment on a house.
And what's with the gaudy rings? Don't they get in the way? I would always be paranoid of losing a ring with diamonds on it. A simple band should suffice.
*Ivan D:
Not ALL girls dream of their wedding day. I didn't. In fact, all of my childhood dreams revolved around going to college and changing the world.
2007-05-05 13:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋