i have been dating this girl since november, and we are like a match made in heaven! i just cant explain it, but we are, however we havent said "i love you" just yet and i was thinking in my head how i would love to marry this girl. however a few things, she is in college for another 2 years and i have my career at its peak....we are 8 yrs apart, and i dont know if she wants a marriage question yet. so with those minor details, what should i do. i can see me with her forever, and she has dropped hints about this and that...what should i do??
2007-05-05 13:12:26 · 11 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just give it time ,dont rush into it, it's only been 7 months .Let her finish school .Make sure she is serious about having a career , not just some gold digger.Then if you both feel the same connection for each other, then get married at your own risk.Remember HAVE HER SIGN A PRE-NUP!!!!!!Before you know it your house and and your money is GONE!Statistically half of all marriages fail .Dont mean to sound like Debbie Downer ,but marriage if you think about it is just a contract.This is strange that you are the one that wants to get married.Most women are the ones that rush a man into marriage , its a status thing for them and a way for them to have control over you.I have been with my girl for 9 years and we have 2 kids . We both love each other and our children , we dont need a contract to prove that.All in all the best of luck to you.
2007-05-07 06:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Gloworm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not sure if she wants a marriage question yet. That's probably not good. Make sure she's ready. If you pressure her into anything, she's going to feel disconnected and then it might never happen.
After a while drop the 3 word bomb. Tell her you love her. Make it as romantic as possible without being cheesy. Just tell her while watching a movie on the couch or something. See how she reacts.
If she responds right away and says she loves you too, I would say she feels pressured and isn't ready. If she waits a bit and says she loves you, I would say she likes you a lot. If she says anything else... pay attention to her and don't get mad.
I hope this helps. Good luck!
nicole
2007-05-05 13:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 and getting ready to head to college and my first date with my now husband was awesome. We are 13 years apart. He was obviously 10 years into his career. We have been together almost 24 years, almost married 21 years and have 2 kids, 20 & 18. I did not finish college but chose to be a stay at home mom and wife. Life is good. Wait till after she finishes college before getting married and truly you two have only been together 6 months....
2007-05-05 13:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you guys have never said "I love you" to each other, don't rush the marriage part yet. Also I personally think it's hard to be in college and be married. With the rate of divorce out there, it's always best to wait and take your time. There shouldn't be any rush. If your meant to be, then it'll be in the end.
2007-05-05 13:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by sprklstephy08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really did dropped hints, then maybe first make the relationship official between you two (no one said he/she loves his/her partner till now) and make an official engagement party. Then tell her that you really want to marry her because she is the one for you and .....etc (you know what I mean).
If she wants to finish college, then let her do before you ask her again.
2007-05-05 13:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 21:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things slow. If you haven't even said "I Love You" yet, she'd be awfully surprised at a proposal! But don't let age or school get in the way. If it's love, it's worth hanging onto. Good luck!
2007-05-05 13:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is supposed to be a lifetime committment, if you are truly ready for that--go for it. Before you do pick up the book "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage" and read it cover to cover. Then you will be prepared to make it a lasting relationship.
2007-05-05 13:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by spacebuff2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. You will give her a chance to say what she wants. Then you can work out the details.
2007-05-05 13:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her you love her, just let her finish school, nothing like a long engagement,
2007-05-05 13:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋