are all people who are against premarital sex religious???

Question

what are the reasons?? don´t start about STD´s please, that doesn´t have to do anything to do with marriage...what´s wrong with having sex within a long-term loving relationship??? I think waiting with sex until mariage can cause people to rush into marriage and marry the wrong person...there should be a minimum of time of dating before getting married to avoid this...and how do you kno you are right for each other if you have never lived together before??

Answer 1

No, not all people who are against premarital sex are religious. Some are just reluctant to give such a huge part of themselves to others so casually. Women have a harder time with casual sex than men do, due to hormones released during intercourse. We tend to think of sex more as a commitment than just fun.
I think that cohabitation before marriage is great. It gives you a chance to really get to know someone at their worst! When you live together you see the good, the bad and the ugly. It shows you what you are in store for if you do decide to marry and allows you to back out without having to divorce.

Answer 2

no. some people are against premarital sex because even in what you describe as a 'long term loving relationship' most folks don't care for the ability of the other partner to just leave on a whim.

even when you live together and have sex, things change when the "I Do's" are said and the ring is on the finger. many people say it reduces the spice because it is not considered as exciting or taboo as just living together. plus the party manners are off and people DO change when they get married.

STD's (although you don't want to speak about them) DO play a role in some people choosing to wait. It is hard to have a long term relationship with or without a wedding ring if you are concerned that sex can kill you. No matter how wonderful the person is, if they are oozing and crusty, that isn't appealing.

divorce has become the 'relief valve' or 'escape hatch' when people dont want to face their problems and get the help they need to work them out. Sure, there are legitimate reasons for divorcing, but most of them have little to do with sex and more to do with money, inlaws and the inability to work together and communicate.

being right for each other is more about making mature unselfish decisions and putting the other person ahead of any agenda and game playing than just sex.

no relationship built on sex alone can last very long.

Answer 3

I'm not religious, and I don't feel that it's bad. I had plenty of it myself. Before I got married, I dated my husband for 5 years. We did not live together during that time. I don't encourage people to live together before marriage, so you can build that "Us" identity together as a married couple. We had sex regularly (who am I kidding, we shagged like bunnies). It was like you said, a long-term loving relationship... But on our wedding night, we were standing there in our fancy clothes and kind of laughing at each other. When we had sex that night, it was just like any other night, and I really wished I had held out for that moment, because although we were married- which was the most important thing- neither of us had anything special to give to the other... Nothing important to mark the occasion. Fool around all you want, get naked, have an orgasm, all that stuff... but save that last thing for the guy who brings you chicken soup and tea when you're having a bad intestinal flu. Better yet, find a guy who'll save it for you, too. Because it's about sealing the deal, making that promise to each other. My marriage is wonderful six years later and I love my husband. But I'll never forget feeling slightly foolish that night. And that has nothing to do with religion.

Answer 4

I don't think religion is the only reason.

Sensible people realize that there's more to sex than sweat and an exchange of bodily fluids. That kind of intimacy is important (sacred, according to the religious) emotionally to both men and women. I agree that it's difficult to get to know the lumps and weirdnesses of a person without living together first, but, aside from sex, what are you going to find out that you wouldn't in a marriage? That it irritates you when he doesn't close the toothpaste tube, that he's incapable of doing his own laundry as long as you're in the house, too? Come on. Dating is about romance, excitement, and seeing the best of a person. There's plenty of time to find out about annoying habits.

Sex is only one part of a relationship. Friendship, companionship, similarities, sharing, being OK with irritating habits: THAT's a longterm relationship. And THAT's what makes a lasting marriage.

Answer 5

I am a Christian and I do believe in waiting until marriage to have sex. It is simple...God meant for sex to be experienced between a man and a women united in marriage. There is not a thing a wrong with sex. I love it...but it was meant for two people who are married.
Sex is not just physical. Love, companionship and intimacy go along with the package. Having sex is a very intimate act. You are sharing your whole self with someone. You want to make sure that person is committed to you....body and soul. That is what marriage is.

Answer 6

I do believe most people are opposed to premarital sex for religious reasons. I think it is mildly unrealistic to believe that people should wait until marriage because the average marriage age is rising.

There is nothing wrong with having sex in a long-term loving relationship in my opinion as long as you are taking proper precaution against pregnancy and disease, and you are old enough to realize there may be consequences to your actions. I don't believe in casual sex at all. I believe a loving relationship should be established before engaging in sexual activity.

I don't believe in cohabitation before marriage because I don't think cohabtitation is a real commitment. I think if you live with someone before marriage it makes them less likely to want to marry you in the future.

Answer 7

m...well religion aside here! Have you ever purchased a car with out test driving it? Physically and sexually we either do it for each other or don't, so before a life long commitment is entered into, i do believe their should be some form of trial periods. What if you find you self married till death do you part and you cannot bear the way he grunts and carries on during sex, it either work or it don't, it is not something that can be worked on!!

Answer 8

i don't see anything wrong with it but I've been reading some of the answers to this question and others involving single mothers and people considering abortion etc and it does seem that the majority of people whether religious or not tend to judge people who have had premarital sex as being promiscuous or casual when this is not always the case, the more religious people are the less capable they seem to be of "christian" thought and of understanding and seem to have a higher propensity to judge others, i know I'm generalising here and i also know that not everybody who has a religious conviction feels that way but most seem to. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

Answer 9

Because sex is a speical inner part of yourself that you give to someone. It is the most precious thing you can offer someone else.

Too many people think of it as recreation. One's own body is not meant to be someone's recreation.

You do not have to live with someone and have sex to "know" you are right for each other.... That's a myth.

Answer 10

i have found more wrong people have gotten married to the wrong person that they lived with. It is different for everyone. If I have to do it all over again I won't live with the person first, I'll have a nice long engagement first.