my friends have boyfriends but my mom doesnt like that my friends are kind of trouble makers how can i say to her im growing up & im not a little baby ??
2007-05-05 09:43:08 · 25 answers · asked by crazigurlhott 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
growing up doesn't mean hanging out with older trouble makers. you need to make rational, responsible choices, which includes who you hang out with. if your mom is worried about the company you keep, she probably has good reason. kids never realize how right their moms were until years later
2007-05-05 09:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by :-D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You write that your friends are 'kind of trouble makers'. Your mother does not want to have a child who associates with trouble makers because it is a known fact that trouble makers end up dead or in jail. SO your mother loves you. Listen to her. She knows more than you . She knows you are not a little baby, but right now your job is to do well in school so that you can get a good job and move out and THEN you can hang with anyone you like. ( Funny thing is that then you wont want to hang with those kind of people )
2007-05-05 17:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your growing up then you should try to talk to your Mom and hear her side of things..
Part of being an adult is working things out like one...
Your Mother loves you and is only worried about your safety..
If you watched the news more you'd know it's not a safe world out there for kids, and she can never replace you, nor would she want to,
Young adults now a days are so quick to put down their parents because they are protective and care what happens to them..And yet the same teens are as quick to complain if their parents show little or no care for them..
Sadly, you won't know where your mother's coming from until you are older, but trust me, she's doing it out of love for you..
If you really want to hang out with these friends, invite them to your place and let her get to know them...
If they are good people, let her have a chance to see that for herself...
And accept, no matter how old you get, you will always be her baby...That's a Mom for you....
2007-05-05 16:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by Innisfil g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I thought I was grown up too. Then I turned 18...and realized that I've been a kid the entire time and still am. Your friends are trouble makers, it's natural that your Mom doesn't want you messing around with them...especially if you're a dumb as **** teenager..hey I'm 19. Teenagers are dumb...we're not grown up inside just yet. Um...older boyfriends..sometimes the guy is cool. A lot of times the gap leads to bad news..idk. I take your Mom's side.
2007-05-05 16:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Alexis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up means that your making the right choices and if your hanging out with trouble makers that your not growing up. Your not maturing. Plus your mother is only tring to protect her child. And dont think I am only saying this because Im an adult. I am not an adult I just turned 17 I live on my own and my mother does not baby me becuase I am smart enough to do the right thing and hang out with the RIGHT and GOOD people that DONT get into trouble.
2007-05-05 16:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by moon_star_black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to ask the same question....If you're over 18, parents really don't have a say. They love you and want what's best for you. I think sitting down with them would help. Explain that while you appreciate their concerns, it is still your decision on who you are and aren't friends with. Ask that they have trust in you to make sound decisions. Eventually, parents have to realize that their kids do grow up.
If you're under 18, I'd say the same thing. Just tell them how you feel without being negative to them. Show them how you can be grown up by speaking with them about it in a positive way. Hope things work out for you!!
2007-05-05 16:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are "kind of trouble makers'?? Sounds like your mom is making a wise decision to keep you away from them. Listen to her and talk out any frustrations. She has your best interests at heart. You will understand better when you are older.
2007-05-05 17:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the baby of 5 girls and trust me I know how hard it is sometimes to try and let your parents know that you are growing up. I say that you just tell her that you want to have a talk with her and just tell her how you really feel. Make sure that you give pointers on why she should trust you. My mom and I recently had one of these conversations and I am 17 years old! (kinda crazy I know) But I think in the end your mom will understand and relize that you're not a baby anymore! Good luck hun:]
2007-05-05 16:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Morgan M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a long talk with her make her understand, that its not ur fault teen stuff is kicking in, & that she cant keep treating u like a baby. Cuz sooner or l8r u'll be leaving off 2 college, && u'll be getting married. U wont b her lil baby 4evr.
&& tell chillin with older ppl will let u get 2 kno the real world better.
But do remeber dont be harsh, & just lay it on her.. Talk time 2 time & make sure this is wut u want. I'm not sure how ur mom punishes. but take precaution!! lol. Hope this helps ya!!!
2007-05-05 16:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Megan :] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think older people are hanging out with you? Because you are naive - your Mom is just trying to help you see the danger you are putting yourself into by hanging out with these people. You don't mention the age difference but if you look at it realistically it isn't about you growing up it is about her not trusting them to treat you well.
2007-05-05 16:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋