My mom and I are really close. I don't like her current boyfriend and neither does she most of the time. We finally moved out but she still see's him sometimes and continues to get hurt. I think she deserves better but she wants to give up on guys completly. How do I help her?
2007-05-05 09:40:11 · 14 answers · asked by annie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her to dump the loser ,and spend some time with family and friends who love her. Where is it a law that women need a man? encourage her to take time to find out what she wants in life.
2007-05-05 09:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by srstephens 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can see you love your mum very much and just want her to be happy. But you know i think she also knows that she's not happy in this situation and probably is just drifting cos there is nothing else at the moment. You've both moved home and i would guess that it would have been the ideal time to call it a day but she hasnt, so there is some insecurity or uncertainty that she's feeling right now. Some women go through that phase that something is better than nothing. And she could be in that right now. What you could do is spend some quality time together, maybe lunch or a spa day or something, and pick her brain see where she's at and assure her that you love her but you feel she's drifitng with this man. What is it that she sees or want from him. Assure her that she's a beautiful woman and she could definitely do better with someone else. She just needs time to find who she is and when the time is right the right person for her will come along. But if she doesnt want to do that, as a daughter you will just have to accept it but be supportive.
2007-05-05 10:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice that you have a good relationship with your mom and want to help her, but that means nothing if you don't know how!
Firstly, you need to get the guy out of her life once and for all. If hes not there, he can't hurt her. Talk it through with your mom and tell her that you don't want to see her hurt. Make a challenge for her, that shes not to have any contact with him.
Then, I think she needs a break from guys. Why don't the 2 of you go on a nice holiday together?
Your mum needs to know their is more to life than guys, she needs something to live for, something that exites her. Can't she take up a new hobby?
If she is still missing guys and confident she wants one but the right one, try and set her up with a nice person. Somebody that shares the same interests as her, and who is caring and romantic. Someone to make your mom feel special!
Take Care
Best Wishes From The UK..x
2007-05-05 13:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sahra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a good person & it's nice to hear your so close to you Mom...and you really care about Her...I don't really know all the answers to your question...but when you receive all your letter's read them very carefully...there is something to learn from everyone...you should tell your Mom how you feel...maybe her & her current boyfriend will drift apart now that they aren't living together...maybe you two could join some kind of group or club...something thats new for her...new people to meet...Sign up on Facebook.com it's really cool & you can do all sorts of things in their...you can meet people from around the world...it's not a dating service it's just a place to meet people..you can invite your friends to join you & you can put their picutres there...be sure to check it out...spend more time with her to keep her busy...your both very lucky to have each other...rembmber to read each email carefully...Good Luck
Sea ya
Daytripper
2007-05-05 10:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by Daytripper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you are looking out for your mum, and that you are looking out for her welfare. But at the end of the day only she can can take steps for getting hurt in her relationships. Perhaps suggest something like 'Yahoo Personals' where she can get to know people through email contact, before steaming straight into a relationship?
2007-05-05 09:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by beausbreeches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this person is of a nasty disposition then i would suggest going to the police? NO woman no matter who they are dont deserve to be hurt whether its physical or mental! and any man who does this sort of thing is lower than the stuff you scrape off of your shoes? if anyone hurt my mum they would end up in an early grave as i would go totally insane with rage!
2007-05-05 09:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Phil B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are so close I would always be there to support your mom. Although you may not have the same opinions of eachothers boyfriends you should stick together forever and for always.
2007-05-05 09:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by silveysista 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can only help herself - you can be supportive and get her books on self appreciation or a day at the spa but she has to see her own worth. Sorry.
2007-05-05 09:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her straight how u feel and let her know she derserves better then him maybe get a family friend who u can talk ti to also mention it too your mum, if she heres it form an outsider she may be able to realise what he is doin to her it will b hard but be there for her
2007-05-05 09:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by xXx pink princezz xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would help her buy telling her that you don't think he is the one for her and tell her she needs to consider breaking up with him and looking for a guy who fits her personality better but don't just throw it on her make sure you start a nice conversation so she gets interested and listens before you drop something like that on her like i said don't drop it like a bomb shell just do it easily
2007-05-05 09:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by Chelsea Critchfield 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋